Draw a circle.
Inside that circle write down the names of every person who you spend some time with EVERY SINGLE DAY – not “most days”, but every day.
Draw a larger circle around the first circle.
Inside that larger circle write down the names of every person who you spend some time with EVERY SINGLE WEEK – not “most weeks”, but at least once every week ………….(if you like you can write the names of people you spend some time with most days of every week nearest the inner circle, and those you tend to spend some time with only once a week towards the outer part of the circle)
Now draw another larger circle around the second circle.
Inside this third circle write down the names of every person you spend some time with EVERY SINGLE MONTH – not “most months” , but at least once every month.
If you like, add yet another circle for those you spend some time with EVERY SINGLE YEAR.
When I say “spend some time with”, I mean mainly those you share some physical space with, not just those you speak to on a phone, those you text, or those you chat with online. However, that’s also an interesting exercise to do. In fact, one variation of this exercise is to use two separate coloured pens or pencils and to use one colour for those you actually spend some time with physically, and another for those you spend time in communication with, but not in the same physical shared physical space.
- Who is in which circle?
- How much of your life are you sharing with whom?
- How are those relationships influencing your life?
- Do you want to make any changes?