I recently came across this summary of Victoria Satir‘s approach to health and personal growth….
The Five Freedoms – Using Our Senses—Virginia Satir
Satir keenly observed that many adults learned to deny certain senses from childhood, that is, to deny what they hear, see, taste, smell and touch/feel.
The Five Freedoms are:
The freedom to see and hear what is here, instead of what “should” be, was, or will be.
The freedom to say what you feel and think, instead of what you “should” feel and think.
The freedom to feel what you feel, instead of what you “ought” to feel.
The freedom to ask for what you want, instead of always waiting for permission.
The freedom to take risks on you own behalf, instead of choosing to be only “secure”.
Satir’s Therapeutic Beliefs and Assumptions
Satir’s therapeutic model rested on the following assumptions, that:
The major goal in life is to become own choice makers, agents and architects of our life and relationships
All human beings at heart are beings of love and intelligence who seek to grow, express their creativity, intelligence, and basic goodness; need to be validated, connect, and find own inner treasure.
We are all manifestations of the same life energy and intelligence.
Change is possible. Believe it.
We cannot change past events, only the effects they have on us today.
Appreciating and accepting the past increases our ability to manage present
The most challenging tasks in life are relational. Simultaneously, relational tasks are the only avenue for growth. All challenges in life are relational.
We have choices, disempowering and empowering ones, especially in terms of responding to stress.
All efforts to produce change need to focus on health and possibilities (not pathology).
.People connect on similarities and grow on resolving differences.
Most people choose familiarity over comfort, especially in times of stress.
No task in life is more difficult as the role of parent. Parents do the best they can do given time the resources they “see” available to them at any given time.
Next to our role as parents, no task in life is more challenging. We all have the internal resources we need to access successfully and to grow.
Parents often repeat own familiar patterns, even if dysfunctional.