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Now here’s an interesting concept – “free won’t” – which, it is argued, is an essential part of free will!

Neuroscientists have shown that we use two different parts of our brain – one to develop an intention to do something; and a separate part to hold off doing it. If someone can’t hold off then they act impulsively. For example, children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder who tend to have big problems with self-control. The researchers who did this work are calling the holding off ability “free won’t”.

This is such an interesting idea. Probably somebody has told you at some stage in your life “Count to ten!” – that’s free won’t. This skill is the skill of choosing, so that your experience of life isn’t driven by unprocessed and uncontrolled feelings and urges (a life that is driven this way often feels as if it is happening to the person rather than giving them the sense that they are the active creators of their own lives).

Here’s a great quote from the researchers –

“The capacity to withhold an action that we have prepared but reconsidered is an important distinction between intelligent and impulsive behavior,” says Brass, “and also between humans and other animals.”

On the other hand, I wonder, do procrastinators have an overdeveloped “free won’t”? Is this the part of the brain they use to keep all those intentions under control?!

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Thistle, originally uploaded by bobsee.

How do we get a sense of self?
I think “self” is created by the narratives we tell ourselves and others. We make our own sense of self from our experiences, mixing them constantly with our memories with our imaginations.
One of our key capabilities as humans is language and our ability to handle metaphors is at the root of this.
So, what I suggest you do is to see if you can become aware of the stories you tell yourself every day. The ones you create the sense of “Who am I?” from. There are many. Really many. But one that came to my mind was provoked by the sight of this thistle.
I took this photo of a thistle on my morning walk to work the other day. This is SUCH a powerful symbol for me. The thistle is Scotland. And I am Scottish. This place, this physical place, where I live, towered over by Stirling Castle high on its rock, surrounded by green fields stretching to the brown and grey and green hills, this is where I come from. This is where I belong. My family goes back in this town for a couple of centuries and more. I can feel my roots here. I feel sustained here. The energy, the colour, the smell of the air, the sunshine and the rain, the rocks, the trees and the plants, they all imbue me with a strong sense of who I am.
What’s your geography of self?
How does the place where you live, the physical environment in which you live, create your sense of who you are?

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When I was a GP (a Family Doctor) I had a pony tail but once I became a grandfather I cut it off. One of my patients brought her daughter to see me where I work now (Glasgow Homeopathic Hospital) having been to consult me herself several years ago. She said her husband asked her where she was going today and she replied “To see Dr Leckridge at the Homeopathic Hospital”. He said, “Oh, that hippie doctor!” “What do you mean?” she asked. “The one with the pony tail,” he replied. “Oh, he doesn’t have a pony tail any more” she told him and he replied “Aye, but it’ll still be on the inside!!”

“I hope it is!” she said to me.

Conforming is a zombie way of life in my opinion. It’s good to know your uniqueness and to be yourself. There’s a great post on this across on lifehack today. It’s written by Adrian Savage who writes the great Slow Leadership blog. I love his conclusion –

Conformity has very little to recommend it. Trust yourself and trust others. Our world has so little trust even a little more is precious. If you can’t trust who you are—the naturally valuable, curious, interesting, and exciting person you were born to be—why should anyone else trust you?

Mediocrity and inner frustration are the true price of conforming. Only those with the courage openly to live their dreams can ever hope to find lasting satisfaction with their lives.

I also love the quote he’s chosen from Rollo May’s “Man’s Search for Himself”

“The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice…it is conformity.”

Go on, trust yourself, and be the hero of your own life story.

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The heart of the flower, originally uploaded by bobsee.

There’s a whole world in there isn’t there?
In Leisure, by Joseph Pieper, he refers to the act of contemplation as a way of perceiving without effort. In Eastern religious traditions meditation is a common practice (and scientific studies support the claims that meditation practice can bring many health benefits). However, for those of us from different cultural backgrounds to those where such spiritual practices are taught, meditation can seem alien and difficult.
Contemplation as effortless perception however is accessible to all of us. First you have to notice something. Then you have to slow down, stop and gaze, letting the object of your gaze fill your thoughts. You don’t have to figure out exactly what you are looking at. You shouldn’t ask yourself any questions about it.
Just take a few moments in silent contemplation.
It’s good for you.
Flowers capture me. On so many levels. From catching my attention, to contemplation, wonder, awe and curiosity.
What captures you?

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I’ve recently been playing with Stumbleupon and stumbled across this page.

It’s good to read aphorisms and when they are spiced with humour they’re even better.

The “thought for the day” at the bottom of the page captures the tone of the whole piece –

Thought for the day: Never be afraid to try something new. Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark. A large group of professionals built the Titanic.

Check it out. I think you’ll laugh at (and agree with) all these “pearls”.

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One of my colleagues emailed me this link today.

OK, so I’m prepared for the fact that you might be put off by the religious slant, or you might find it a bit cheesy, but, hey, I think there’s way too much cynicism in this world. (I DO enjoy satirical comedy but that’s not the same as cynicism)

So, go on, take a chance, go watch this little presentation. The photography is really beautiful. The poem “An Interview with God” (anonymous poet apparently), which provides the text of the presentation, I rather like, and the music, by the way, is from the Forrest Gump score. As a whole this is a very touching work (have your tissues ready), and, you know what? It made me feel good!

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Amy’s got a new blog going. Go have a look. Today, she’s put up a post about what we can learn from babies. It’s lovely and it’s spot on. She highlights some of babies’ most instinctive and distinctive qualities including wonder, curiosity, unconditional love and determination (and others too).

She’s so right. These are great qualities and it’s a shame that we tend to lose them in the busy-ness of adulthood.

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Leisure

Christopher Richards who writes slowdownnow said that the book that got him thinking about the whole slow idea was “Leisure. The Basis of Culture”, by Josef Pieper. So I got myself a copy – a lovely hardback edition published by Liberty Fund with an introduction by T. S. Eliot. I really enjoyed doing a dissertation at school (several decades ago!) on T.S. Eliot so finding an introduction by him was a special treat. Josef Peiper was a Catholic Philosopher (which is not something that would usually appeal to me!) and his writing can be both elegant and difficult. But this little essay certainly provoked my thinking.

He makes the point that leisure, not work, is the basis of culture, and a fully human life. He also makes the point very, very clearly that leisure is not the same as idleness. It’s not about doing nothing, slobbing around, or just passing time. It’s about being fully engaged with the world in a non-active, non-doing way.

Whilst Max Weber said “one does not work to live; one lives to work”, Pieper instead reminds of Aristotle who said

We work in order to have leisure

(In fact, the direct, literal translation of this quote from Greek to English is “We are unleisurely in order to have leisure”)

In our frantic, Getting Things Done, To-do list obsessed society, this seems an incredible statement. But the Greeks had it right I think. They had two main “arts” – the liberal arts (ars liberales), and servile work (ars serviles). Work doesn’t sound so great when you add the adjective “servile” does it? But that captures so much of our experience in modern society. For many people, work is just something they have to do, but which is so demanding and consuming that when they are not working they are totally unable to experience leisure.

Pieper points out that leisure is……

a mental and spiritual attitude – it is not simply the result of external factors, it is not the inevitable result of spare time, a holiday, a weekend or a vacation.

and, that it is…..

an attitude of non-activity, of inward calm, of silence; it means not being ‘busy’, but letting things happen.

This description is highly reminiscent of meditation and it’s no surprise that Pieper frequently refers to the activity of contemplation as a way of experiencing reality.

I can see why this essay provokes self-questioning about the all-consuming busy-ness of current lifestyles. It reinforces for me the importance of one of the key groups of virtues is around “Calm” – for me, I’ve identified the three virtues of Slow, Silence and Tranquillity under this umbrella. This is not an argument in favour of doing nothing in life, it’s an argument which turns our priorities on their heads, stressing the absolute importance of leisure. I agree with Aristotle – we work in order to have leisure (and, I guess, many of us work to enable others, too, to have leisure)

I particularly liked his holistic description of leisure.

The point and the justification of leisure are not that the functionary should function faultlessly and without breakdown, but that the functionary should continue to be a man – and that means that he should not be wholly absorbed in the clear-cut milieu of his strictly limited function; the point is also that he should continue to be capable of seeing life as a whole and the world as a whole; that he should fulfil himself, and come to a full possession of his faculties, face to face with being as a whole.

OK, not the easiest sentence to read, but you get the point, don’t you? This is what life is about. This is what being a hero is about. To fulfil yourself, to be in full possession of your faculties and to be at one with life and the world. It strikes me that zombies aren’t fulfilled and although they might work or be idle, the one thing they cannot experience is leisure.

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The main theme of this blog is the challenge to reject the zombie way of life, stumbling unconsciously through the average, and wake up, get involved and consciously choose how to develop your way of life. In short, become the hero of your own story, the principal character in your own narrative, accepting challenges, reflecting on your experiences and growing.

I was struck by how well the problem was described by Sebastian Faulks in his Engleby

This is how most people live; alive, but not conscious; conscious but not aware; aware, but intermittently.

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I was heading home on the train from Glasgow to Stirling the other day. I enjoy having my daily commute of about an hour in a train or a bus either way because it gives me quiet, undisturbed time to sit and think, or read, or write, or listen to my ipod. This particular day there was a young, blonde woman opposite me. At one of the stations she moved and sat in another seat (I think to have a table to herself!). The train arrived at Stirling station and I gathered up my belongings and headed for the door. As I passed her table she said, in an American accent, “Excuse me sir. I feel I’m supposed to give you this” and handed me this –

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I was a bit taken aback and without thinking stepped off the train with the gift in my hand. It was a metal box. I unclipped its magnetic catch and opened the lid to reveal this –

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So now I’m thinking……what??!! A bible!!?? Why me? What did she see in me to make her think she should give this to me! Worse, it was a well worn box which was obviously her frequently used personal copy of the bible. She wasn’t even a bible distributer handing bibles out to strangers like some kind of Scotrail Gideon! What had she seen in me? Did I look depraved and in need of saving? Was I looking weary and worn and needing my spirits lifted? It was all deeply disturbing! What did she think was wrong with me? What need did she think she saw in me?

Then I remembered what I had been reading as she had sat opposite me. Here’s what she would’ve seen –

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OK, so now I understand! She thought I was searching for happiness and I guess she thought I’d be more likely to find it in the pages of her bible than in Daniel Gilbert’s book. Well, it was a kind thought. It involved some sacrifice for her to give away something that was important and personal to her. But! She judged me! She saw what book I was reading and figured not only what kinds of problems I might be facing but how I might best find the answers! Thank you for your kindness, anonymous American girl, but I wasn’t searching for how to be happy. I am happy. And you can rest assured your gift will not get any more worn out than it was the day you gave me it.

An interesting variation on the old saying, huh? Not only can you not judge a book by its cover, but you shouldn’t judge a person by the cover of the book they’re reading!

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