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I first came across the use of the word “flow” in relation to well-being when I read the book of that name by the psychologist, Czikszentmihalyi. Since then, I’ve found it a useful concept, not only in relation to happiness, mood and thinking, but also in relation to the entire good functioning of the human being.

When all your billions of cells work in harmony (another good word when thinking about health) then there is an integrated, coherent flow of energy and co-ordinated activity throughout your entire being.

In my BE THE FLOW, I explore this concept with words and images. Here’s the section on flow itself….

FLOW

What do you think of when you think of “flow”?

Flow involves constant movement and change.

We say we are in the flow, when what we are doing goes well, feels effortless and even exciting. When a sportsperson is in the flow, they are performing at their best, running fastest, scoring goals, hitting balls far and accurately. When a musician is in the flow, they are making beautiful, or stimulating, or moving, music. When a dancer is in the flow, his or her movements are elegant, beautiful and awe inspiring.

We all have days when Life flows well. Those days, we feel good, we achieve what set out to achieve, we get what we wish for.

It takes effort, practice and skill to make performances seem easy, to make them flow.

Flow might be effortless but it is full of energy.

A fast flowing river is vigorous, energetic, powerful.

You can hear the sound of the water flowing over a waterfall echoing through the forest long before you catch sight of the falls themselves.

When we see clouds racing across the sky, blown by the high winds, we don’t say they are flowing, but we could. They are water, and they are moving, fast and far, apparently effortlessly. The clouds flow over the sky from one horizon to the other.

The low clouds flow down over the tops of the mountains, like liquid nitrogen spilling out of its container. They flow down the side of the mountain, enveloping it, swathing it, wrapping it up in soft, wet, white cloud.

Healthy living organisms exhibit the characteristics of flow. They have vitality and vigour. All their parts are working well together, communicating well with each other, working in harmony, or showing what is termed “coherence”. Everything is flowing in the same direction, without turbulence, and without stasis. The coherence of flow creates a distinguishable being. We can see and know its existence. We can distinguish it from its surroundings, just as we can name a river.

Flow also suggests direction. Usually something which is flowing is flowing somewhere…..towards some point. Flow pushes towards what is called the “far from equilibrium point”. It pushes at the boundaries, at the limits. And, in so doing, new phenomena appear. This novelty, this appearance of new behaviours or patterns is known as emergence. Flow is, therefore, the driving force behind creativity.

BE THE FLOW

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Water Lessons

 

Atlantic lighting

We can learn a lot from water. Water is everywhere, both around us and within us. Without water we would die very quickly. Water meets many of our needs. Water can be a great teacher for us.

Let’s begin by considering the sea. All the oceans of the world are connected. There are no oceans, no seas, anywhere in the world, which exist in isolation. In fact although we name the oceans and the seas as if they are separate entities, they are not. They are all one, artificially divided up into regions. We do that all the time as human beings. We break down whatever we see into parts, and we name the parts, isolating them from their natural environment, artificially dividing them up to contain them.

All divisions are artificial. The seas and oceans of the world are more than just connected. They are all the one water.

The surface of the sea is rarely still. In fact, it is never still at the edges. Have you ever been to a beach where there are no waves breaking on the shore, where there is no tide? Some days, however, as you cast your eyes out further to sea, the surface may appear flat and calm, but it rarely stays that way for long. The wind blows, the currents flow, and the surface breaks into a myriad of waves. Every one of us is like one of these waves. We appear, as if we are separate and distinct entities, but only for a brief time, then we are gone again. This is no illusion. Like the waves, we do indeed appear as distinct, discernible entities. But only for a short period of time. Just as the waves emerge out of the ocean, without breaking away from the ocean, so we emerge from the universe, from Life, from the non-dual nature of reality. And just as the waves dissolve back into the great sea again, so do we, after a brief life, return to the universe, to whatever it is that we emerge from.

Apparently separate forms are not actually separate at all. All beings, all forms, emerge only for a brief time from the wholeness of everything, and they are all transient, soon finding themselves submerged again below the surface, finding themselves becoming one again.

As the wind and the currents produce the waves, so the sun’s rays heat the surface of the seas and the water rises high into the sky to form clouds. We can learn a lot from clouds. It is hard to define the edges of a cloud. As you look at it, it constantly changes shape, size and colour. You can point to a particular cloud sitting low on the top of a hill, but if you climb the hill, the closer you get to the cloud, the harder it is to see its edges. At some point, you enter the cloud itself, but it can be very difficult to know exactly when that occurs. It’s almost impossible to know where a cloud begins and ends. In fact once you get really close to a cloud, it becomes just mist, a wetness on the surface of your face, an obscurity, a hindrance to your vision. Strangely, clouds are easier to see from the distance than they are from close up.

Objects are not as fixed as they first appear. All objects are constantly undergoing change, and edges are not as clear the closer you look.

As the clouds drift towards the mountaintops, they release their water as rain, and the rain falls to the ground. As the raindrops gather on the ground they form puddles, ponds, and lakes, and they flow down the mountains and hills as streams which join other streams to become rivers. The rivers all flow towards the sea, returning to the point where they began.

All of life is cyclical. Just as the water in the sea rises to become clouds, then falls again as rain, we see the patterns and cycles of all life. Where are the straight lines in Nature? Where are the beginnings and the ends of things? Everything curves, bends, entwines, cycles and flows.

Why do the rivers follow the particular paths they take? Partly, the answer is the environment in which they flow. The earth and rocks encountered by the water resist it, and in that resistance they create the river banks. Partly, however, the answer is history. The water which has flowed this way before is joined by the water which falls today. The actual course of a river can change over the years, but we can easily place any river on a map. We can track it from it’s origins, from it’s source, right down the long and winding path to it’s estuary, and so into the sea again. Over the years, over the centuries, particular paths are carved in the surface of the Earth, and as each new rain falls, the water quickly seeks out these old paths and hurries down them.

The paths of the past create the paths of the present.

We name the rivers. We can place them all on our maps. Yet, as Heroditus said, you cannot step in the same river twice. He was pointing out the truth that the river constantly changes and flows. You never experience the exact same river twice.

Everything constantly changes. What you experience today can never be experienced again.

 

 

BE THE FLOW

 

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a wave

Can you remember a time when you looked up at the sky, a blue sky with distinct white clouds in it, and as you looked at one particular cloud you could watch its shape constantly changing? You probably noticed how the cloud would thin out at the edges and, in many cases, especially with the smaller clouds, you could watch as it gradually disappeared.

If you can’t remember ever doing that, then do it as soon as the weather allows. Pick out a fairly small cloud and watch it constantly change shape, constantly thin out at its edges and gradually disappear.

Where does the cloud go?

Have you ever watched large snowflakes slowly falling onto water? Have you noticed how they lose their shape, sinking or dissolving into the water?

Where does the snowflake go?

Now imagine you have a bottle of water and you take it down to a river. You take off the top of the bottle and empty the water into the river. Instantly, it seems, the un-bottled water disappears.

Where does the bottled water go?

Imagine the last of these scenes is filmed with a video camera and now you can watch the video but slowed down many, many times. You can see the water in the bottle taking the shape of the bottle. As you empty it out, it rapidly changes its shape as it pours into the river, but before it hits the river, it is still clearly the same “body of water” which was held within the bottle. As it breaks through the river’s surface, it changes shape even more, frame by frame becoming less distinguishable from the river itself.

The bottled water doesn’t disappear. It becomes the river as the river flows through it.

The snowflake doesn’t disappear. It becomes the water as the water flows through it.

The cloud doesn’t disappear. It becomes the sky as the sky flows through it.

Can you remember a time when you looked at the sea, and watched the waves growing out of the flat surface of the sea, swelling out of the surface of the sea, until they broke free of that flatness to stand proudly, perhaps flashing white tips as they sped towards the shore, to crash on the rocks or the beach, hiss, rattle the stones and the shells, then slip back quietly into the sea again?

BE THE FLOW

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november reflection

In my twelve monthly themes, November is the month of reflection. Why not take a moment to reflect on the year so far? Or even on TODAY so far??

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Autumn

At this time of year, I look out of my consulting room window and the sudden redness of the leaves on this tree catches my eye. It’s one of my personal markers of change.
Change is a certainty in life, but we often resist it.
I think we are all experiencing big changes in the world today. That can be scary, and one response is to cling even harder to how to things are, but clinging doesn’t help.
It’s better to embrace change. After all, not only is it impossible to prevent the leaves turning red, but in fact the change is beautiful. In fact, it puts me in touch with the cyclical phenomena of nature, of the rhythms of season and time.
Take a look again at the byline at the top of this blog – “becoming not being” – there’s a lot to be gained by tuning in to becoming….

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october fruition

In October, I love to see all the berries splashing their colour amongst the green and golden leaves of autumn. It’s the month of harvest thanksgiving in many countries and cultures too.

So, what can you think of this year so far, which has come to fruition? For me it’s my BE THE FLOW project – the website, the beautiful, colour, photographic book of Be the Flow, the little black and white paperback, and the Kindle version too. You can find them all at www.betheflow.net

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I’m a great fan of stories. In fact, I think we understand ourselves and others by using narrative, and the central way in which I work as a doctor is to hear people’s stories, and help them to change them from stories of being stuck or in chaos, to stories of flow, and flourishing and growth.

I’m also a great fan of fiction and the importance of the imagination. I vividly remember Ian McEwan writing this, about this day, ten years ago…

If the hijackers had been able to imagine themselves into the thoughts and feelings of the passengers, they would have been unable to proceed. It is hard to be cruel once you permit yourself to enter the mind of your victim. Imagining what it is like to be someone other than yourself is at the core of our humanity. It is the essence of compassion, and it is the beginning of morality.

So, this recent article in the Guardian caught my eye, “Reading fiction improves empathy, study finds”. There are a number of studies described in this article, and it’s introduced me to something called “the pyschology of fiction”, and, specifically to the work of Keith Oatley. If I wasn’t so insatiably curious I wouldn’t keep finding these amazing new worlds to explore! One of the studies described in the article compared the effects of reading Harry Potter with the effects of reading Twighlight. They used a new measure – “Twilight/Harry Potter Narrative Collective Assimilation Scale”! Don’t you love that? Look at this conclusion from that research –

“The current research suggests that books give readers more than an opportunity to tune out and submerge themselves in fantasy worlds. Books provide the opportunity for social connection and the blissful calm that comes from becoming a part of something larger than oneself for a precious, fleeting moment,” Gabriel and Young write. “My study definitely points to reading fulfilling a fundamental need – the need for social connection,”

and read this fascinating comment by Keith Oatley

“I think the reason fiction but not non-fiction has the effect of improving empathy is because fiction is primarily about selves interacting with other selves in the social world,” said Oatley. “The subject matter of fiction is constantly about why she did this, or if that’s the case what should he do now, and so on. With fiction we enter into a world in which this way of thinking predominates. We can think about it in terms of the psychological concept of expertise. If I read fiction, this kind of social thinking is what I get better at. If I read genetics or astronomy, I get more expert at genetics or astronomy. In fiction, also, we are able to understand characters’ actions from their interior point of view, by entering into their situations and minds, rather than the more exterior view of them that we usually have. And it turns out that psychologically there is a big difference between these two points of view. We usually take the exterior view of others, but that’s too limited.”

Spot on. He really nails the importance and value of fiction as a tool for building empathy. We reduce the place of the Humanities in our education system at our peril!

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symmetry of land and sea

This is how I see Life.
We are all like waves on the surface of the sea.
We all emerge, temporarily, from the universe, from the cosmos, from the continuous, and inseparably connected all that is.
Slow down the movie of the sea, and you’ll see that each wave is unique. It has its distinct form. It appears in a specific time and place and it is constantly changing.
It never disconnects from its source and it returns to the sea, from whence it came.
We are like that. We emerge from the cosmos, never separate from it, constantly changing and in existence for a very short time in the history of the universe.
Of course, waves make an impact too. Together, and with other forces they create the specific shapes of the islands and the coasts of the land masses.
We make an impact too. Some impacts affect only a few people around us, other ones spread far and wide. Some are brief, and others last for generations….

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september learning

I remember taking part in a small group once which opened with asking everyone to say which month was their favourite month, and why. One of my colleagues said September because that was the beginning of the Academic Year. I liked that response and I’ve always remembered it.
I have many criticisms of our educational system and institutions, and what I really believe is that everyone should learn all the time. I am insatiably curious which drives my constant desire to learn.
However, this time of year is the time when the universities and colleges publish their programmes for “adult” or “continuing” education classes, so I think it’s a great time to plan what you’d like to learn in the coming weeks.
My most recent experience was a course in artists photographic book self-publishing. If you’d like see what I produced have a look here.
What would YOU like to learn next?

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…as I walked past the park this morning, something caught my eye …

 

rockin robin

What was it? Who was it?

robin

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