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BE THE FLOW

Water Lessons

 

Atlantic lighting

We can learn a lot from water. Water is everywhere, both around us and within us. Without water we would die very quickly. Water meets many of our needs. Water can be a great teacher for us.

Let’s begin by considering the sea. All the oceans of the world are connected. There are no oceans, no seas, anywhere in the world, which exist in isolation. In fact although we name the oceans and the seas as if they are separate entities, they are not. They are all one, artificially divided up into regions. We do that all the time as human beings. We break down whatever we see into parts, and we name the parts, isolating them from their natural environment, artificially dividing them up to contain them.

All divisions are artificial. The seas and oceans of the world are more than just connected. They are all the one water.

The surface of the sea is rarely still. In fact, it is never still at the edges. Have you ever been to a beach where there are no waves breaking on the shore, where there is no tide? Some days, however, as you cast your eyes out further to sea, the surface may appear flat and calm, but it rarely stays that way for long. The wind blows, the currents flow, and the surface breaks into a myriad of waves. Every one of us is like one of these waves. We appear, as if we are separate and distinct entities, but only for a brief time, then we are gone again. This is no illusion. Like the waves, we do indeed appear as distinct, discernible entities. But only for a short period of time. Just as the waves emerge out of the ocean, without breaking away from the ocean, so we emerge from the universe, from Life, from the non-dual nature of reality. And just as the waves dissolve back into the great sea again, so do we, after a brief life, return to the universe, to whatever it is that we emerge from.

Apparently separate forms are not actually separate at all. All beings, all forms, emerge only for a brief time from the wholeness of everything, and they are all transient, soon finding themselves submerged again below the surface, finding themselves becoming one again.

As the wind and the currents produce the waves, so the sun’s rays heat the surface of the seas and the water rises high into the sky to form clouds. We can learn a lot from clouds. It is hard to define the edges of a cloud. As you look at it, it constantly changes shape, size and colour. You can point to a particular cloud sitting low on the top of a hill, but if you climb the hill, the closer you get to the cloud, the harder it is to see its edges. At some point, you enter the cloud itself, but it can be very difficult to know exactly when that occurs. It’s almost impossible to know where a cloud begins and ends. In fact once you get really close to a cloud, it becomes just mist, a wetness on the surface of your face, an obscurity, a hindrance to your vision. Strangely, clouds are easier to see from the distance than they are from close up.

Objects are not as fixed as they first appear. All objects are constantly undergoing change, and edges are not as clear the closer you look.

As the clouds drift towards the mountaintops, they release their water as rain, and the rain falls to the ground. As the raindrops gather on the ground they form puddles, ponds, and lakes, and they flow down the mountains and hills as streams which join other streams to become rivers. The rivers all flow towards the sea, returning to the point where they began.

All of life is cyclical. Just as the water in the sea rises to become clouds, then falls again as rain, we see the patterns and cycles of all life. Where are the straight lines in Nature? Where are the beginnings and the ends of things? Everything curves, bends, entwines, cycles and flows.

Why do the rivers follow the particular paths they take? Partly, the answer is the environment in which they flow. The earth and rocks encountered by the water resist it, and in that resistance they create the river banks. Partly, however, the answer is history. The water which has flowed this way before is joined by the water which falls today. The actual course of a river can change over the years, but we can easily place any river on a map. We can track it from it’s origins, from it’s source, right down the long and winding path to it’s estuary, and so into the sea again. Over the years, over the centuries, particular paths are carved in the surface of the Earth, and as each new rain falls, the water quickly seeks out these old paths and hurries down them.

The paths of the past create the paths of the present.

We name the rivers. We can place them all on our maps. Yet, as Heroditus said, you cannot step in the same river twice. He was pointing out the truth that the river constantly changes and flows. You never experience the exact same river twice.

Everything constantly changes. What you experience today can never be experienced again.

 

 

BE THE FLOW

 

Be the flow

BE THE FLOW

a wave

Can you remember a time when you looked up at the sky, a blue sky with distinct white clouds in it, and as you looked at one particular cloud you could watch its shape constantly changing? You probably noticed how the cloud would thin out at the edges and, in many cases, especially with the smaller clouds, you could watch as it gradually disappeared.

If you can’t remember ever doing that, then do it as soon as the weather allows. Pick out a fairly small cloud and watch it constantly change shape, constantly thin out at its edges and gradually disappear.

Where does the cloud go?

Have you ever watched large snowflakes slowly falling onto water? Have you noticed how they lose their shape, sinking or dissolving into the water?

Where does the snowflake go?

Now imagine you have a bottle of water and you take it down to a river. You take off the top of the bottle and empty the water into the river. Instantly, it seems, the un-bottled water disappears.

Where does the bottled water go?

Imagine the last of these scenes is filmed with a video camera and now you can watch the video but slowed down many, many times. You can see the water in the bottle taking the shape of the bottle. As you empty it out, it rapidly changes its shape as it pours into the river, but before it hits the river, it is still clearly the same “body of water” which was held within the bottle. As it breaks through the river’s surface, it changes shape even more, frame by frame becoming less distinguishable from the river itself.

The bottled water doesn’t disappear. It becomes the river as the river flows through it.

The snowflake doesn’t disappear. It becomes the water as the water flows through it.

The cloud doesn’t disappear. It becomes the sky as the sky flows through it.

Can you remember a time when you looked at the sea, and watched the waves growing out of the flat surface of the sea, swelling out of the surface of the sea, until they broke free of that flatness to stand proudly, perhaps flashing white tips as they sped towards the shore, to crash on the rocks or the beach, hiss, rattle the stones and the shells, then slip back quietly into the sea again?

BE THE FLOW

Nice little article on the School of Life site about the relationship between compassion and circulating levels of oxytocin.

It references Paul Zak’s talk on TED.COM.

It appears that there’s a relationship between our oxytocin levels and how much compassion we experience. Of course, as with so much neuroscience, this can’t be described as simply cause and effect but the correlation is still an interesting one.
I particularly like the concluding recommendation about how to increase your oxytocin levels –

To make a decision to raise the level of oxytocin in our bodies – Zak’s prescription is “eight hugs a day” – and reduce, say, levels of the stress hormone cortisol, seems as conscious a moral choice as giving to charity or embracing a religious creed. And if the outcome is the same, then let’s get hugging now

 

Never mind your 5 a day veggie and fruit portions – have you had your 8 hugs today yet??

People not processes

It seems like there’s one story after another at the moment about vulnerable old people being neglected in hospitals, “care homes” and even in their own homes where home “carers” are failing to provide the “minimum standards of care” – even, according the most recent reports, to the extent that their are breaches of basic human rights.

It makes you wonder about the word “care”.

Within the health service and the “care” industry there’s been an increase in setting standards, developing procedures to record activities and the government’s response to this latest report is to talk of strengthening the inspection systems.

Is this the answer? To set higher “standards”, and to ratchet up the monitoring and inspection processes?

I don’t think so. It doesn’t seem to be enough. The missing link, is, I believe, a prioritisation of people.

What does it mean to be human? If we reduce a human being in any way, we start to lose the very essence of being human. A human being can neither be reduced to  an object to be acted on, nor a means of carrying out procedure without losing something. Every human being is unique and lives constantly with a subjective experience of reality. If we forget that we start to act towards each other as if others are objects.

What we need is to reclaim the values – that the most important thing is to care – to feel empathy towards, compassion towards the people – both the people in need of care, and those delivering it. We need to treat people as whole people, not as tasks to be carried out or completed.

I was wondering the other day what makes the difference between a good day and a not so good day, or, frankly, a bad day?

It’s tempting to think its to do with external circumstances, like the weather, or with other people – what other people say or do. But I don’t think that’s a good explanation.

Maybe it’s to do with attitude or perception then? After all, some days the rain will seem to dampen your spirits. Some days the clouds seem to have been sent to rain on your parade. But other days, the rain will release the fresh, clean smell of grass. It will make the cobwebs in the bushes sparkle. You can turn your face towards the sky and feel invigorated by the rain drops falling on your skin. What makes the difference?

I got to thinking about verbs. Verbs? Yes, verbs. The words we use which describe what we are doing. Because we LIVE. That’s a verb. It’s something we do. How do I live? How do I do this living? Maybe my everyday verbs create my everyday experience? Maybe I DO, or, rather, CREATE, the quality of my everyday life? If that’s true then which verbs are important to me?

Here are the five verbs I figure are important in my life. The more of these I’m doing in a day, the better the day seems to me. Conversely, the less I’m doing these, the less satisfying the day feels.

I remember these verbs easily through the letters – CSEED.

C is for CREATING. I get creative restlessness. Do you get that? It’s a kind of agitation or a feeling of being unsettled. I can ease that feeling by creating. My favourite ways of creating are writing, photographing, or solving problems. I’m sure we all have our own ways to find our creativity.

S is for SHARING. I’m not a loner. I like to be in communication with others and to share experiences with others. I like people and it feels good when I’m sharing some of my day with others.

E is for ENJOYING.  Who wants a life without fun or pleasure? There has to be some enjoyment for life to feel good.

E is also for EARNING. I need to earn to live my life. Maybe I won’t always need to be earning (hey, I might win the lottery!) but until then it’s important that I earn, and it contributes to my self worth.

D is for DISCOVERING. I am insatiably curious. I love to find things out, to learn, to develop new understandings and have new insights.

That’s my verbs. The more I’m creating, sharing, enjoying, earning and discovering in a day, the better the day feels to me.

You can do this for yourself. Ask yourself which verbs are important to you in your everyday life? Maybe they’ll be the same as mine, maybe they’ll be different. Feel free to share if you like……

I’m so excited

fiery sky

This is one of the photos from the new “Flow through 2012” calendar I made at the weekend. This photo is the one for March. If you’ve read about my monthly themes, you might like to see if you can see the connections between the theme for each month, and the particular photo of the clouds, or of other stages in the water cycle, which I’ve chosen. Really, I’m thrilled with this calendar. You can see the whole calendar across at www.redbubble.com – just search for “bob leckridge”

The meaning of life?

I was struck by a strange juxtaposition of readings this morning. First of all, I was reading a piece by Raymond Tallis (excellent, by the way, read it here!) where he quotes Professor John Gray, from the London School of Economics

For Gray the animal nature of man leads him to the chilling conclusion that ‘human life has no more meaning than the life of slime mould’. Man (whom he re-names Homo rapiens) ‘is only one of many species and not obviously worth preserving.’

Then I read Antonovsky’s definition of “coherence” –

We are coming to understand health not as the absence of disease, but rather as the process by which individuals maintain their sense of coherence (ie sense that life is comprehensible, manageable, and meaningful) and ability to function in the face of changes in themselves and their relationships with their environment

Well, what do you think? Do you think human life has no more meaning that a slime mould? Or do you find Antonovsky’s definition of a healthy life more appealing?

Frankly, and this is the thrust of Tallis’ argument I believe, attempts to dehumanise what it is to be human by excluding the rich reality of consciousness, is not only unappealing, even frightening, but it diminishes the potential for compassion, and, hence, the potential for a better world.

Does this bother you?

British GPs’ prescriptions for opioid painkillers have risen sixfold since 1991 to 1.4 billion a year, according to the National Treatment Agency for Substance Abuse. More than 500 million prescriptions a year are written for sedatives, sleeping pills and tranquillisers, and the prescribing of benzodiazepine tranquillisers for anxiety has also risen.

It bothers me.

These are colossal figures and they are very, very sad. Not only is level of prescribing unaffordable, but it is increasing – this is not sustainable health care! But more importantly, I feel, what about all the pain, sadness, anxiety, sleeplessness and so on which this prescribing is supposed to address? Shouldn’t we be developing and delivering health care (without drugs) which sustains health, which supports resilience and vitality, which helps people to cope with daily stresses, and shouldn’t we be getting a handle on what all this stress is about, and actually dealing with that? It seems our current social and economic system is well broken!

Probably one of the best ever examples of how its the photographer not the equipment which makes a great photo. Stunning shots in this little video, and a great story too. Watch it and be inspired!

 

november reflection

In my twelve monthly themes, November is the month of reflection. Why not take a moment to reflect on the year so far? Or even on TODAY so far??