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Our entanglements

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , on May 2, 2025| Leave a Comment »

I’ve been watching the series, 1883, recently. There’s one scene I found especially thought provoking. The character, Shea, or “Captain”, talking about grief, describes his belief that when you love someone a part of their soul becomes embedded in yours, and a part of yours in theirs. His wife, who died from smallpox, had a dream to see the ocean, so he’s making his trek West across America to get to the ocean, so that he can share that experience with the part of her soul he carries in his forever.

Whatever you believe about souls or spirits, this is either a beautiful fact, or a wonderful metaphor. I am sure that when we love someone, and they love us, then we do become entangled forever. Even if there is physical separation resulting from life paths which diverge and take us to other towns, or other countries, even if there is the physical separation of death, then this entanglement continues.

I often think that a person is more than the physical existence of their body. They are their personality, their stories, and, indeed, their soul. Every single one of us changes this world simply by living in it. It’s inevitable because we are so embedded and interconnected. The changes we make are unique. There was never the distinct you, before you were born, and there will never be an identical copy of your life at any time in the future. We impact on those who encounter us. We are changed by our encounters.

So, as memories and stories continue, so does the entanglement of two souls.

I’ve understood that for a long time, but it hadn’t occurred to me that I might share my wonder of the world, my amazements and delights, with my loved ones, parts of whose souls I carry inside mine.

I like that idea. It’s beautiful.

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Nostalgia for good vibrations from America

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , , on April 13, 2025| 1 Comment »

Yesterday I heard The Beach Boys song, Good Vibrations, on the radio and it took me right back to my youth. It came out in 1966….that’ll be 60 years next year! I’d only be 12 when I bought the single. I’ve always loved it. It was innovative and it’s aged especially well. I enjoy it now as much as I ever did.

But, here’s the thing. This time it evoked a certain sadness in me. Something it hasn’t done before. It wasn’t the sadness of getting old. Sure I can feel sad that my mortality is more obvious to me than it was when I was young, but surely that’s just normal, and it’s not something that colours my everyday. Maybe it was a bit of nostalgia – for the years, on the brink of becoming a teenager, enjoying my life with my large group of friends who all shared an enthusiasm for music. There are so many songs from that decade which delight me still….and I read a study recently which suggested the most powerful music for us (neurologically) is the music we listened to between the ages of 15 and 25. Well, those figures are not fixed, for sure, and I’ve read many other studies about the power of music to increase quality of life and slow down cognitive decline, especially the music of our teens and twenties.

But, no, this wasn’t a nostalgia for my teenage years with my friends. It was a nostalgia for America.

OK, I know that every Age is a complex mix of experiences and events, but I grew up through the years where music like the Beach Boys, Simon and Garfunkel, Joni Mitchell, Crosby, Stills and Nash, and so on, created very positive, delightful, moods for me. To be honest, I started with the Beatles, moving on to bands like The Kinks, The Who, Genesis, Yes, Jethro Tull, and so on. I used to listen to the pirate radio station, Radio Caroline, and the constantly fading out and in signal of Luxembourg, 208. My vinyl collection (yes, I still have those records I bought, mainly through those years), is heavily British, but there are a significant number of American artists in there.

I suppose the kind of feeling I had for America was coloured by that music, by Woodstock, and Peace and Love. And, frankly, those feel like kinder days.

Those feel like lost days.

In 2025, the stories from America are about hatred. Hatred of “immigrants”, and “others”. Stories of turning allies into enemies. Stories of suppression, of arrests and deportations. The UK and several EU countries have changed their travel advice to citizens seeking to go to America – and the message is, even a visa won’t guarantee you entry. I don’t know anyone who is thinking of traveling to America this year. It feels a place of hostility and fear.

So, the sadness I felt when I listened to Good Vibrations, came, I think, from feeling that the vibrations from America now are anything but good.

I’m sure you’ll have a different experience from me. We all have our own experiences. But I thought I’d just take a few moments to share what happened to me. And to hope…..to hope that, one day, maybe in my lifetime, I’ll associate America with Good Vibrations again.

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Encountering beauty makes today a good day

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , , on March 1, 2025| Leave a Comment »

I know the old saying is “Red sky in the morning, shepherd’s warning”, but when I look out my window when I get up and see a sky like this I am delighted. I’m delighted because it’s beautiful. Don’t you agree?

And every encounter we have with beauty contributes to making today a good day. I notice beauty everywhere in nature. It’s easy to experience just by walking round the garden and noticing. There is so much beauty in the plant world. But while I’m in the garden I notice something else beautiful….birdsong. I’ve never lived anywhere else where I hear so much birdsong every day. I’m surrounded by it. Probably because my garden is surrounded by trees on every side. Looking up to the sky is another way to encounter beauty, whether it’s in the gorgeous reds of a sunrise, or sunset, or the amazing blues of a clear day, or the astonishing shapes of clouds as they drift by, or the sparkling night sky with the parade of planets.

A lot of the beauty I encounter is visual. You’ll know from browsing this blog that I’m a keen photographer. I photograph whatever catches my attention. I photograph what I find beautiful and what stirs my sense of wonder. But a lot of the beauty I encounter is also auditory. I love music and listen to music for a good part of every day. And a lot of the beauty I encounter is in other human beings. I am repeatedly struck by the kindness of others, by the shining delight in a happy face, by the strength and resilience of those coping with adversity, with the radiance of those who love.

Where will you encounter beauty today? Take a moment to notice, and a moment to reflect at the end of the day. It’ll make your day a better day.

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Bonds and links

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , , on February 28, 2025| Leave a Comment »

Making mutually beneficial bonds – that’s the key to forming integrative relationships. What’s an integrative relationship? It’s one where both parts contribute towards the health and wellbeing of the other. When that happens both can achieve more than they could alone.

When I think about this concept, I think of the human body. Every single organ in the body forms, and is formed by, integrative relationships with the others. What kind of body could exist if all the organs were fighting each other, trying to secure resources at the expense of the others? What kind of body could exist if all the organs were trying to put themselves first? Same thing applies to all the cells which constitute our being…they are not fighting each other, competing each other, trying to outdo each other in some kind of dystopian “survival of the fittest”. Their super-power is the ability to collaborate, the ability to form mutually beneficial bonds.

I’m not saying that competition doesn’t exist. Of course it does. It’s one of the drivers of evolution as best we understand it. But we took a wrong turn when we honed in on that and made it the fundamental principle of the societies we created. Our current global economic and political system is built on these foundations.

It’s beyond time that we shifted our focus and started to build the kind of world we want to live in by drawing, instead, on our natural super-powers – co-operation, collaboration, integration. We build mutually beneficial relationships by using our powers of imagination to foster empathy and understanding.

We can build a better world by recognising that the best way to thrive is to build integrative relationships….with other humans, with other animals, with other forms of life on this one, small, finite, shared planet.

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Finding a future

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , , on February 22, 2025| 1 Comment »

This single seed isn’t uncommon, is it? You’ll all be very familiar with this kind of seed distribution….where a plant creates an appendage which allow it to be carried far and wide by the wind. Well, first of all, this is pretty astonishing, isn’t it? I mean how amazing to be able to create a structure like this all by yourself? Trees, of course, don’t use any machinery or tools to manufacture a structure like this. And how even more amazing that a structure and strategy like this seems to have evolved on our planet. Isn’t nothing short of miraculous. You don’t have to look outside of Nature to be amazed, to find what seems utterly magical and enchanting. Truly amazing.

But there are a couple of other things I think about when I contemplate this single seed. The first is that even with our advanced scientific methods, nobody can tell you whether or not this particular seed is alive. And nobody can predict exactly where, when, or even if, it will grow into a tree. Nature, and Life, are fundamentally unpredictable. There’s a body of thought which argues that if we have enough “data” we can know “everything”….we will be able to predict the future with accuracy once we have enough data and the means to analyse it. I reckon that’s wrong headed. Nature, and Life, just aren’t like that. No amount of data will enable you to make accurate predictions about individuals….whether they be winged seeds, or human beings.

The second is that abundance is at the heart of Nature. Seeds like these are produced in enormous numbers. You could argue that they are “inefficient” in terms of modern management theory, because they are produced in numbers which far, far exceed the number of new plants which will grow from them. But these are key features to natural systems – abundance and “redundancy” (this latter term refers to having multiple systems which mostly aren’t used, but are there to provide flexibility and adaptability). Our industrialised capitalist system creates false scarcity – how many times do you come across an advert which tells you that if you don’t buy this now, then it’ll be too late, it’ll all be gone? If we created an economic and social model based on Nature, it would be based on the reality of abundance. We could house the world’s population in decent housing. We could feed the world’s population. We just don’t choose to, preferring to create an elite of billionaires instead……

Management theories based on pushing for ever more “products” or “services” from the least possible resources (human, material, social and financial) are not healthy, and they aren’t natural. Look how well they responded to Covid for example. From “Just in time” delivery systems, to the closing of hospital beds and failing to stock equipment needed to deal with crises…..it goes on and on. We need management systems better attuned to the reality of Life on Earth – and that doesn’t involve cut after cut after cut, or reducing human being to cogs in multinational corporate machines.

Thirdly, this seed lying on a stony path reminds me of the parable of seeds, as I was taught it at Sunday School. I don’t know if that parable is still taught, but amongst other things, surely it teaches the importance of the environment. If your seed doesn’t fall on fertile ground it’s unlikely to thrive. We need healthy water, air, and soil, and none of us can provide that by ourselves. Our human super power is co-operation and our ability to work together to create healthy conditions for individuals to thrive.

Any other thoughts come to you when you look at this little seed?

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Persistence and transience

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , on February 9, 2025| Leave a Comment »

This photo inspires two opposite thoughts in my mind – one about longevity and one about brevity. This tree stump reveals about a hundred rings. I haven’t actually counted them all, but I think there are around a hundred of them, and that’s not unusual for a tree. In fact, many trees have a far greater longevity than human beings do. Some of them have lived several hundred years. Methuselah, a tree in Eastern California, is reckoned to be the world’s oldest tree, and seems to have been alive for over four and half thousand years. We humans average around eighty years, and can reach just over a hundred in a minority of cases. What enables any living organism to live for many years? One feature is persistence. The thing is nothing stays the same. Objects are not as fixed as we believe them to be. A tree, like any other living creature, is constantly metabolising nutrients, turning some into energy and others into structures such as fibres and cells. It’s actually more true to say that all living things are systems of constant flow and change…..but they look stable and fairly fixed over time. We can identify them, one from the other, not least because of this capacity to retain an internal integrity – a persistence over time.

On the surface of this tree stump is the shadow of a couple of flowers. From the shape of the shadows I’d say they are some kind of allium. If you look carefully you’ll see a few scattered purple petals. The shadows won’t last long at all. A cloud might pass over the sun at any moment and they’d disappear. Or over a few minutes the Earth will turn and the Sun won’t cast the shadows of the flowers in this direction any more. The petals which have fallen from the flower remind us how brief is the life of a flower. They really don’t appear for very long at all….certainly not nearly as long as a tree. Both the shadow and the flower make me think of the polar opposite of persistence – transience. Transience is the other fundamental characteristic of all life. Nothing lives for ever. Even a tree thousands of years old will die. We humans, all within a much shorter period than that. In Japanese culture transience is greatly valued and you can see that most clearly during the season of the cherry blossom, where the national newspapers chart the spread of the blossom from the south to the north of the country, and when thousands upon thousands of people go out to admire the trees, take photos, have picnics, and enjoy the colours.

Persistence and transience.

We need both. And it’s not a matter of balancing them so that one cancels the other out. Reality is a constant flow of change…..but it’s not formless chaos. Very distinct, very knowable, very recognisable individuals appear, live a life, then fade away back into the whole from which they emerged. Isn’t it amazing how we have evolved the ability to be aware of, even to relish, or celebrate, these polar opposites? Persistence and transience.

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Not simple

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , , on February 8, 2025| Leave a Comment »

Living organisms are not simple (no, not even the simplest of them!). Look at this tree. How could you begin to trace its beginning and its end? Where do its roots begin and end? Where does the trunk begin and end? What makes the branches emerge exactly where they do, and what determines the direction they will grow and distance they will stretch?

And, to think, this tree began as a single seed. How absolutely impossible to predict the exact shape and size of this tree from an examination of that seed.

We like to chop reality into pieces, calling this a part, and that, another part, as if there are clear divisions between what we are calling “parts”. But that’s just what our brains do. Specifically, that’s how we engage with the world from the perspective of our left cerebral hemisphere. That hemisphere was never intended to function alone, and all its hyper-focus, all its re-presentation, all its re-cognising, labelling and categorising, was always meant to be passed back to the right hemisphere for re-contextualisation, for re-absorption into the whole, so we could see the connections, the relationships, the ever changing, developing flow of the world.

I’m convinced that the world is a more satisfying place, that life is better, when I open my mind to awe, to wonder. I’m convinced that the world becomes meaner and more shallow when I reduce it to “things”, “objects” and utility.

How amazing it is to really stand and see a tree, a single tree, to gaze, and to wonder at its origins, its history, its connections and its here and now reality. How amazing.

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Riding the wave

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , on January 28, 2025| Leave a Comment »

I’m a fan of the idea of “going with the flow”, and I’ve written about it often, but when I was in South Africa last January I saw this person in the sea….not so much going with the flow, as “riding the wave”. This latter phrase isn’t one I use so much, but these feel like turbulent times, and it feels as if the flow is also turbulent….there are great waves, one after another. Waves of significant change, eye catching, attention grabbing waves. It would be easy to feel submerged by waves like these. It would be easy to feel that they are going to wash us all away. So maybe this is a time to learn how to “ride the waves”, to “rise above” them. To tap into their energy and use that to go my own way.

I think it comes down to the attitude we strike – if we approach these waves with fear, then, surely, we’ll drown, or, at best, be driven this way and that, against our will. But if we approach them with confidence, with a sense of wonder and curiosity….then we can play with them, create what we want to create, drawing on the energy and power within the wave, without blindly following its direction.

This does feel a time of great change, but, that can be exciting when we begin to see a potential evolution, a possible phase change, allowing us, as individuals, as communities, and even as a species, to move on to very different world, a very different way of living.

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Living on the edge

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , on January 16, 2025| Leave a Comment »

I imagine that the first thing you notice when you look at this image is the sea. In fact, it was the sea which caught my attention, and triggered my camera release. But when I review it now, my eye is drawn from the water, to the rocks, and then to the houses perched on the top of the cliff. Strangely, I didn’t notice them when I was taking the photo.

How would you like to live there? Right on the edge?

You’d certainly have a fabulous view of the sea every day, for as long as you wanted to. As best I know house prices on the coast, with a sea view, are pretty much higher than house prices inland, so, perhaps most people are keen to live on the edge.

Others find it a bit scary. They’re not so secure perched on the top of a cliff, and open to the winds and storms which sweep in from the sea from time to time.

We’re all different.

The philosopher, Gilles Deleuze, writes about the “far from equilibrium” zone. It’s where change occurs. It’s the closest area to chaos, to phase changes, to producing emergent phenomena which we couldn’t predict. He says that when we follow a “line of flight” towards the edge, things can become clearer. In the middle, in a balanced, and relatively static place, the mix of streams of information and energies can make it hard to distinguish characteristics and themes, but as you stretch out towards the edge, it’s a bit like unravelling a ball of threads, each colour becomes easier to see.

But there’s something else about living on the edge which occurs to me. I’ve noticed the word “extreme” is used a lot these days, especially in politics, and always with an intention of shutting people down. Some views are described as “extreme right”, others “extreme left” (sometimes the word “extreme” is replaced with the word “hard”) but what does it tell us about the person to whom we are attaching this label? It’s a judgement, not an observation. The label is applied differently in different contexts of course. As I understand it, something like “universal health care” is described as an “extreme” view by some (much more so in the USA than in Europe). Here in France, that’s definitely not labelled “extreme”.

I’m wary of labels at all times, but I’m especially wary of this “extreme” label. It doesn’t tell me anything. I want to hear what the person has to say. I want to understand their world view and their beliefs. I want to explore their values. Labelling them doesn’t let me do that.

By the way, understanding a point a view, doesn’t mean you have to adopt it. It can, however, open up some points of common ground, and shift the discourse away from the harmful polarised quality which seems dominant at this time.

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Nothing is unchangeable

Posted in Uncategorized, tagged , , , on January 14, 2025| Leave a Comment »

When I look at a mountain, my first thought, my first impression, is how unchanging it is. You can’t imagine a mountain changing. Can you? I used to look out across to Ben Ledi in Central Scotland, and what I saw every day was different. It was different because the light and the weather were different. So sometimes it would glow red with a setting sun, sometimes seem painted white with snow, other times hidden by low clouds and mists, but the mountain, itself, looked the same size and the same shape every single day. I couldn’t imagine a time when it wasn’t there, or when it was just created.

But look at this mountain beside Lake Annecy. It looks pleated. It has so many folds that it looks as if it is draped in a giant cloth. And when I look at that I can easily imagine that this mountain emerged…that it was created by massive forces, stronger than I’ve ever seen.

I can imagine a time when this mountain didn’t exist, and so I can imagine a time when it might disappear.

And I know, that if I was a scientist studying mountains, I’d be aware of just how the mountain changes, little by little, every single day.

Nothing is fixed in this universe. There are no fundamental, unchanging particles, the “building blocks” of all that exists.

The Universe is flow. Reality is always in the process of creation. Every changing.

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