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We’re all different. We cry for different reasons and in different circumstances. Sometimes it’s good to cry. A Scottish word for crying is “greeting” and there’s an old saying that “a good greet” will make you feel better. There are a lot of things that make me cry. I cry at movies, at songs, at the painful stories I’m told. I cry when I’m sad and I cry when I’m happy. I cry when I’m overwhelmed. It can feel good. Here’s a fanvid I found on youtube that made me cry. I find it very moving. Maybe if you’re not a Lord of the Rings fan like me, or you don’t like this kind of music, it won’t work for you, but maybe it will. Whether it does or not, what works for you? What do you watch or listen to or do to have “a good greet”?

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The Witch of Portobello by Paulo Coelho. ISBN 978-0-00-725184-1

If you enjoy the work of Paulo Coelho, and I am someone who does, then you will enjoy his latest book. He has created a very distinct style for himself. As a reader you know what to expect and you’re not disappointed. Mind you, having worked as a General Practitioner in Portobello, Edinburgh until I took up my current post, I was disappointed that the book wasn’t set there! There’s plenty to enjoy and lots to think about in this novel. Let me focus on the idea of the witch because that is fundamental to the whole work. On page 13 he describes four archetypes of women –

  • Virgin
  • Martyr
  • Saint
  • Witch

What really got me thinking here was his description of the path to enlightenment characteristic of each of these archetypes –

  • Virgin – Independence
  • Martyr – Suffering
  • Saint – Unconditional Love
  • Witch – Pleasure

Do you recognise these archetypes? I don’t think they are exclusive to women. As with all archetypes of the psyche I think each of us resonate with them to greater and lesser extents. It’s unusual to find someone who can be fully described by a single archetype. So which of these do you resonate with? And how can you play to your strengths then?

Like all Paulo Coelho’s books, this is a story of self-discovery and how to find your own way in life.

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Mind the gap

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It is in the spaces in between that things happen

.……..The Conqueror. Jan Kjaerstad

In a study of how we hear silences in music, Elizabeth Margulis has shown that not all silences are heard the same. In fact she has shown that both the music which precedes the gap and the music expected to follow the gap influence how long the listener experiences the gap to be and alters the quality of what they perceive.

A photo, a quotation from a novel, a scientific study…………they bring to my mind the Tibetan concept of a “bardo” as described in the Book of Living and Dying. I read it years ago but the idea of becoming aware of the gaps (bardos) has stayed with me. Spaces interest me. Shadows, the patches of light within and around shadows, the brief moments between breathing in and breathing out, between one thought and another. So here’s your challenge for today. Notice some spaces. What are they like? See how they are all different? How does life change when you start to notice the spaces in between?

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Here’s a quote from The Conqueror by Jan Kjaerstad

Supposing one were a conqueror – what would one win? The world? A little peace of mind? A name? Immortality? Oneself? Power? Women? There were times in Jonas Wergeland’s life when he felt there was only one thing worth striving for: health. To be fit and well.

What do you think? Do you agree with Jonas? What do YOU think is worth striving for?

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anvil cloud, originally uploaded by bobsee.

I just looked out of my window and couldn’t resist snapping this.
What a wonderful anvil shape. You know there is a whole organisation and a book dedicated to noticing clouds. You can see why!
Sometimes the best place for my head is in the clouds…..

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According to the French philosopher, Gilles Deleuze, wrote that there are three ways to think. I know, you’re already wondering how you can think three ways with one brain! Well, you probably use the three ways all the time. In fact, Deleuze claimed it was important to know about the three ways so you could both see things more clearly and communicate more effectively. You’ve probably come across arguments where one person is saying “But what are the facts? Just give me the facts!” while another says “But what is your heart telling you here?” and a third wants to know “But what does this all mean?”. These three questions arise from three different ways of thinking and whilst they are all trying to get at THE TRUTH, they are all actually dealing with entirely different aspects of reality.

So here they are –

  1. Science – thinking about function. A scientific way of thinking takes a focus on how something works. Understanding how something works is very useful. It gives us the chance to try and make it work better, or at least to improve our experience by figuring out how the world works.
  2. Philosophy – thinking about concepts. Science uses concepts to design experiments and observational studies which will throw light on how the world works. Without the concepts though we wouldn’t know where to start. Many scientists unfortunately confuse concepts with facts, thinking that both are THE TRUTH which leads to closed minds and arrogance. This causes a kind of blindness – “my view is THE correct view, yours is WRONG”. We have to be able to think conceptually if we want to better understand our world.
  3. Art – thinking about percepts and affects. What do we perceive? And what feelings are associated with our perceptions? This is not about the how of perception or the how of feelings, it is about using conscious engagement with our perceptions and feelings to understand an aspect of reality which science and philosophy cannot achieve.

I really like this idea. When I meet a patient it’s important that I am aware of my perceptions and of the feelings that arise in me during a consultation. It’s important that I have a developing conception of illness and of health and it’s important for me to understand what isn’t functioning well in this person’s body-mind.

I also like this idea when it comes to teaching. We learn better when our learning experience engages our three different ways of thinking. We need education which shows us how things work, which teaches us to to conceptualise and which engages our feelings. Remember “Gradgrind” in Dickens’ Hard Times? His view of education was that children were empty vessels waiting to be filled with facts. Ring a bell? Oh, for more enlightened educators!

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We have a real tendency to divide up our experience of the world, put the pieces into separate boxes and label them. Brian Broom talks about this in his excellent book, “Meaning-full Disease“. He says we discriminate, categorise and judge. It’s kind of how we make sense of the world. The human body is remarkable and is endowed with an incredible amount of sensory equipment to detect the world we live it – we sense light and colour, sounds, smells, textures and so on. In fact, our sensory systems are under constant bombardment. If we didn’t discriminate we wouldn’t be able to make sense of it all. We can only deal with so much at a time. We are pattern-seeking creatures, constantly trying to recognise and make sense of the sights, smells and sounds that surround us. Of course, we lose something in this process of discriminating. We ignore most of the signals coming our way and only pay attention to the ones that most interest us. As I said in an earlier post, “we are what we pay attention to“. If we want to grow, if we want to develop and change and not be stuck in deep ruts, then we need to shift our attention, to deliberately try to break our attention-habits and notice what else is in the world. I am a doctor specialising in homeopathic medicine. This is a method which is based on noticing difference. When a patient tells me their story, I don’t want to know just what symptoms they have in common with other patients I’ve known (so I can make a diagnosis), but I want to notice what is different, what makes this person unique. Picking out patterns is a good skill, but we just have to be wary that we don’t always only see the same old patterns. We also categorise everything. We love labels. Often a so-called diagnosis is nothing more than a label. I saw a little boy recently who had an itchy bottom. His mum said the paediatrician had diagnosed the problem as “pruritis ani”. That’s a latin label. You know what it means in English? Yep, “itchy bottom”. So how helpful is that label? Labels, categorising sadly tend to limit our vision. Once we place something in a box we tend to stop being aware of it, stop noticing how different it is from anything else in the same box. Finally, to judge those boxes, calling some “good” and some “bad”? I can’t remember who said it, but I remember once reading “Judgement stops thought”. How true. When we judge something and especially when we judge a person, we stop thinking, stop noticing and stop actually seeing.

Nothing stays the same. We are always constantly changing. We grow, we develop, we change. The processes of discriminating, categorising and judging create a false impression that the world is made up of fixed, separate things. It’s not true. Nothing exists except embedded in a web of connections, and nothing exists without changing. The world is not really so easy to pin down, and thank goodness for that. Life is dynamic. It flows, it moves and constantly changes. Too much pinning down, labelling and judging creates a false impression of a fixed, stagnant world. So, beware. Shift your attention, break your habits and try to see the connections between things, try to see how nothing just is anything, but instead how everything is in the process of developing and changing. Everything is becoming not being…….

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I think it’s good to know where you feel most relaxed, to know what helps you to feel good about life. We all need some time for ourselves. I often tell my patients that they should schedule into their busy diaries some time for themselves – not time to catch up on chores (well, you need that too probably!), not time to spend with your loved ones (yes, you DO need that too!), but time spent alone. It can be simply an hour one day a week (that’s better than no time at all) and it shouldn’t involve anything elaborate. A walk in the park, sitting watching the world go by for a wee while, listening to music, or reading, or just noticing your environment, really whatever works for you is good.

For each of us particular environments are most relaxing. Some of us prefer the seaside. For others, its a park.

This photo is taken in Princes Street Gardens, Edinburgh – plenty of seats there!

Go on, try it. Schedule some YOU time!

 

seats in park, originally uploaded by bobsee.

 

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We are all different and we all find different ways to relax or wind down. One of my colleagues always asks her patients to tell her what’s their idea of a great holiday. The answer can reveal a lot about a person’s coping strategies. I think it’s important to know what makes you feel good, where you feel good, when you feel good. We often get fixated on our problems and one way to not get stuck with problems is to focus on possible solutions. The solutions come from what works for us, the places, times and situations that help us to feel good.

This boat (for many people a boat is a symbol of freedom) and the blue, blue sky, at the seaside represents a way of relaxing for many people.

Where do you go to relax?

What’s your favourite holiday?

 

boat and the sky, originally uploaded by bobsee.

 

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There are 4 million CCTV surveillance cameras in the UK. But who is at the viewing end? This camera is at the Floral Clock in Princes Street Gardens, Edinburgh (no clock there! Long since gone! Just a patch of earth…)

This poor man looks like he’s bored stone rigid! No wonder, this camera’s video feed must be worse than watching paint dry!

But seriously, we live in a command and control society. Who’s in command? Who wants the control?

 

surveillance, originally uploaded by bobsee.

 

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