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BE THE FLOW

Measure your personal energy. Let’s begin by devising a method for measuring your personal energy. This is any energy which only you can detect. Only you can say what your physical energy is like, whether or not you are feeling vigorous and vibrant, or washed out and exhausted. Only you can say what any of your personal energies are like. There are no machines which will measure these energies for you and there are no experts who can measure them for you either.

The simplest way to measure your personal energy is to use a “visual analogue scale”. It’s a kind of thermometer of personal energy. One such scale is the 0 – 100 scale. 0 represents the lowest amount of energy you can imagine, and 100 represents the greatest amount of energy you can imagine having. You can draw this scale on a vertical, or horizontal, or curved line, with 0 at one end of the line, and 100 at the other.

Most commonly the line is drawn as a vertical line with energy rising the way temperature rises in a thermometer. A pleasing alternative is more like a barometer or a speedometer where the needle moves from the low point of 0 at the far left to the high of 100 far right.

Draw your own line the way you want it to be.

Now think about your physical energy level. Right now. This very moment. Place an X on the line to represent what your physical energy level is now. Don’t take time to think about it. Just do it. You can’t get this wrong. You’re the only one who knows the correct answer.

Now you’ve got that number recorded, how about thinking about your mental energy? Do the same exercise. 0 represents the lowest mental energy you can imagine, and 100 the greatest. Where will you place your X right now?

Thirdly, let’s try spiritual energy. This isn’t so easy for some people and if it’s not for you, why not try, instead, to measure your emotional energy?

Go ahead.

You now have three points on your line (or 4 if you decided to spiritual AND emotional!). Are all the points at exactly the same position?

Commonly, they aren’t. We seem to have the ability to holistically, intuitively, and instantly assess these personal energies and to be able to discriminate between them.

In order to understand how energy flows within you, you can create an energy chart. You can measure whichever of the energies you’d like to understand – either a global, overall energy, or a specific, such as any of the four energies we considered above. In fact, you may choose to follow a number of these energies.

A simple two axis graph will enable you to create a useful chart. Make the vertical axis the energy one, with 0 at the bottom, and 100 at the top, and make the horizontal axis time. The duration of time covered by the horizontal axis should be that of the time period over which you want to assess your energy. Do you want to chart its ups and downs over a day? A week? A month?

Of course, as always, why opt for “or” when you can opt for “and”? Why not keep separate charts for each of these time periods and see what rhythms or cycles appear?

Most of us have some point in a day when our energy is at its best and also a time when it’s at its lowest. Are you a morning person, an afternoon person, or an evening person for example? Women especially might find a monthly rhythm connected to their menstrual cycle. Men and women might find that one particular day of the week is typically their peak energy day (or their trough energy day!)

It’s worth while making notes alongside the readings too. For example, when you record the measurement, what had you just been doing before you measured? Eating? If so, what? Conversing? With whom? The more notes you make alongside the readings, the more you are likely to be able to answer the questions – What increases your energy? and, What decreases your energy?

It can also be useful to note what you do in response to certain energy levels. For example, when your physical energy is high, what does that lead to? When your mental energy is high, what do you do at that time? And, conversely, what about when your energy feels low, what do you tend to do then?

Your answers to these questions will begin to reveal your default coping and response strategies to different energy levels.

Finally, consider the effect of sleep. What energy levels do you record before and after sleeping and are they different depending on whether you assess the effects of night time sleep or day time sleep? Is there a difference related to the number of hours of night time sleep? For many people, there’s an optimum range of night time sleep. Too little is insufficient, and too much, is just as bad. The same can be said for day time naps. What exactly is a “power nap”? Is there any such thing for you? Can you get a significant energy boost from just a few minutes napping?

Charting your personal energies – global, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual – in this way will teach you a lot about who you are and how you function. You can’t learn this about yourself in any other way.

As you become practiced at doing this, you’ll also find your ongoing level of energy awareness is heightened. You’ll be more able to experience the flow of energy within and around you.

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THREE RIVERS OF FLOW

What flows like a river?

Which flows make us who we are?

Which rivers flow together to create the river of Life?

Let’s consider the following three.

Energy; Time; and Consciousness

Energy

All substance is energy. All solid objects, whether animate, or inanimate, appear very different from the forms of energy with which we are familiar….heat, light, electricity etc. But in fact, all substances consist of molecules, molecules are built from atoms, and the deeper and deeper we peer into atoms, the more we see simply energy. As electrons whizz perpetually around in the nuclei of the atoms, and as physicists smash atoms to pieces only to discover more and more particles of energy, we discover that all substance is energy, that all energy is part of a great continuum, and that apparent solidity is only that – apparent. There is no different material of the universe called solid. It’s all energy.

Some energy can be experienced directly with our own senses. Light, sound and heat, for example. Some energy can be measured with machinery we manufacture. In fact, we are able to measure the energy our sensory organs can detect, and we can also measure energy for which we have no natural detection equipment – electricity and calories for example.

Other energies cannot be measured with machinery, cannot be detected with our sensory organs, but can be experienced as direct realities – the personal energies – mental energy, physical energy, spiritual energy.

Time

We measure the flow of time with our chronometers, our clocks, watches and timers. These measurements are completely artificial. They were invented by humans and developed as mechanical devices calibrated against the turn of the Earth, and the cycles of the sun and the moon.

But our experience of the flow of time is neither so linear, nor so constant. We experience time as passing slowly, or quickly. We experience time standing still, or time flying. We are also able to consider different durations of time, and in so doing, to change our perspectives.

Consciousness

Consciousness refers to your individual awareness of your unique thoughts, memories, feelings, sensations and environment. Your conscious experiences are constantly shifting and changing.

What is consciousness? It is the awareness of existence. It’s the experience of “I AM”.

But consciousness is not limited to our personal experience of living inside our bodies. As every person matures and develops we can see a natural progression of the expansion of consciousness from egocentric (the awareness of “me”), to ethnocentric (the awareness of “those who are like me”), to world-centric (the awareness of all Nature), and, ultimately, to universe-centric (the awareness of all that is). Each of these “levels” of development of consciousness contains the previous levels within it, so as consciousness expands to include all those who are like me, it continues to include the consciousness which is aware of “me”.

As we consider these expanding horizons, we increase the spread and depth of our connections, ultimately experiencing the universal consciousness from which all personal consciousness emerges.

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BE THE FLOW

A lot goes on within our brains without our knowledge that it is happening. In fact, most of what goes on within our brains occurs without us being aware of it. Consider for a moment your breathing, or your heart rate. Neither of these essential rhythms are under conscious control but the brain plays a crucial role in regulating both of them.

However, the ability to make choices is a key characteristic of being human. By making choices, we claim autonomy and self-expression. In order to make choices we need awareness.

Awareness involves a state of being, a level of arousal and attention. It also requires something to be aware of.

To develop and grow far from our current state requires an awareness of being part of something greater than ourselves. It involves being aware of our connections. Connections to others, to the world, to the universal.

In the contemplation of Life we develop an awareness of our emergence temporarily from all that is. We become aware of our wave-like existence, appearing out of the surface and the depths of the great sea.

Having become aware of our existence as part of the universal and of how we emerge out of all that is, we then become aware of returning to where we came from.

We become aware of the great cycles of birth, growth and death. The cycles of expansion and contraction. The cycles of coming and going.

Finally, we develop an awareness of being within the flow and feeling the flow within, through, and around us all.

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waterfall

I first came across the use of the word “flow” in relation to well-being when I read the book of that name by the psychologist, Czikszentmihalyi. Since then, I’ve found it a useful concept, not only in relation to happiness, mood and thinking, but also in relation to the entire good functioning of the human being.

When all your billions of cells work in harmony (another good word when thinking about health) then there is an integrated, coherent flow of energy and co-ordinated activity throughout your entire being.

In my BE THE FLOW, I explore this concept with words and images. Here’s the section on flow itself….

FLOW

What do you think of when you think of “flow”?

Flow involves constant movement and change.

We say we are in the flow, when what we are doing goes well, feels effortless and even exciting. When a sportsperson is in the flow, they are performing at their best, running fastest, scoring goals, hitting balls far and accurately. When a musician is in the flow, they are making beautiful, or stimulating, or moving, music. When a dancer is in the flow, his or her movements are elegant, beautiful and awe inspiring.

We all have days when Life flows well. Those days, we feel good, we achieve what set out to achieve, we get what we wish for.

It takes effort, practice and skill to make performances seem easy, to make them flow.

Flow might be effortless but it is full of energy.

A fast flowing river is vigorous, energetic, powerful.

You can hear the sound of the water flowing over a waterfall echoing through the forest long before you catch sight of the falls themselves.

When we see clouds racing across the sky, blown by the high winds, we don’t say they are flowing, but we could. They are water, and they are moving, fast and far, apparently effortlessly. The clouds flow over the sky from one horizon to the other.

The low clouds flow down over the tops of the mountains, like liquid nitrogen spilling out of its container. They flow down the side of the mountain, enveloping it, swathing it, wrapping it up in soft, wet, white cloud.

Healthy living organisms exhibit the characteristics of flow. They have vitality and vigour. All their parts are working well together, communicating well with each other, working in harmony, or showing what is termed “coherence”. Everything is flowing in the same direction, without turbulence, and without stasis. The coherence of flow creates a distinguishable being. We can see and know its existence. We can distinguish it from its surroundings, just as we can name a river.

Flow also suggests direction. Usually something which is flowing is flowing somewhere…..towards some point. Flow pushes towards what is called the “far from equilibrium point”. It pushes at the boundaries, at the limits. And, in so doing, new phenomena appear. This novelty, this appearance of new behaviours or patterns is known as emergence. Flow is, therefore, the driving force behind creativity.

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Water Lessons

 

Atlantic lighting

We can learn a lot from water. Water is everywhere, both around us and within us. Without water we would die very quickly. Water meets many of our needs. Water can be a great teacher for us.

Let’s begin by considering the sea. All the oceans of the world are connected. There are no oceans, no seas, anywhere in the world, which exist in isolation. In fact although we name the oceans and the seas as if they are separate entities, they are not. They are all one, artificially divided up into regions. We do that all the time as human beings. We break down whatever we see into parts, and we name the parts, isolating them from their natural environment, artificially dividing them up to contain them.

All divisions are artificial. The seas and oceans of the world are more than just connected. They are all the one water.

The surface of the sea is rarely still. In fact, it is never still at the edges. Have you ever been to a beach where there are no waves breaking on the shore, where there is no tide? Some days, however, as you cast your eyes out further to sea, the surface may appear flat and calm, but it rarely stays that way for long. The wind blows, the currents flow, and the surface breaks into a myriad of waves. Every one of us is like one of these waves. We appear, as if we are separate and distinct entities, but only for a brief time, then we are gone again. This is no illusion. Like the waves, we do indeed appear as distinct, discernible entities. But only for a short period of time. Just as the waves emerge out of the ocean, without breaking away from the ocean, so we emerge from the universe, from Life, from the non-dual nature of reality. And just as the waves dissolve back into the great sea again, so do we, after a brief life, return to the universe, to whatever it is that we emerge from.

Apparently separate forms are not actually separate at all. All beings, all forms, emerge only for a brief time from the wholeness of everything, and they are all transient, soon finding themselves submerged again below the surface, finding themselves becoming one again.

As the wind and the currents produce the waves, so the sun’s rays heat the surface of the seas and the water rises high into the sky to form clouds. We can learn a lot from clouds. It is hard to define the edges of a cloud. As you look at it, it constantly changes shape, size and colour. You can point to a particular cloud sitting low on the top of a hill, but if you climb the hill, the closer you get to the cloud, the harder it is to see its edges. At some point, you enter the cloud itself, but it can be very difficult to know exactly when that occurs. It’s almost impossible to know where a cloud begins and ends. In fact once you get really close to a cloud, it becomes just mist, a wetness on the surface of your face, an obscurity, a hindrance to your vision. Strangely, clouds are easier to see from the distance than they are from close up.

Objects are not as fixed as they first appear. All objects are constantly undergoing change, and edges are not as clear the closer you look.

As the clouds drift towards the mountaintops, they release their water as rain, and the rain falls to the ground. As the raindrops gather on the ground they form puddles, ponds, and lakes, and they flow down the mountains and hills as streams which join other streams to become rivers. The rivers all flow towards the sea, returning to the point where they began.

All of life is cyclical. Just as the water in the sea rises to become clouds, then falls again as rain, we see the patterns and cycles of all life. Where are the straight lines in Nature? Where are the beginnings and the ends of things? Everything curves, bends, entwines, cycles and flows.

Why do the rivers follow the particular paths they take? Partly, the answer is the environment in which they flow. The earth and rocks encountered by the water resist it, and in that resistance they create the river banks. Partly, however, the answer is history. The water which has flowed this way before is joined by the water which falls today. The actual course of a river can change over the years, but we can easily place any river on a map. We can track it from it’s origins, from it’s source, right down the long and winding path to it’s estuary, and so into the sea again. Over the years, over the centuries, particular paths are carved in the surface of the Earth, and as each new rain falls, the water quickly seeks out these old paths and hurries down them.

The paths of the past create the paths of the present.

We name the rivers. We can place them all on our maps. Yet, as Heroditus said, you cannot step in the same river twice. He was pointing out the truth that the river constantly changes and flows. You never experience the exact same river twice.

Everything constantly changes. What you experience today can never be experienced again.

 

 

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Can you remember a time when you looked up at the sky, a blue sky with distinct white clouds in it, and as you looked at one particular cloud you could watch its shape constantly changing? You probably noticed how the cloud would thin out at the edges and, in many cases, especially with the smaller clouds, you could watch as it gradually disappeared.

If you can’t remember ever doing that, then do it as soon as the weather allows. Pick out a fairly small cloud and watch it constantly change shape, constantly thin out at its edges and gradually disappear.

Where does the cloud go?

Have you ever watched large snowflakes slowly falling onto water? Have you noticed how they lose their shape, sinking or dissolving into the water?

Where does the snowflake go?

Now imagine you have a bottle of water and you take it down to a river. You take off the top of the bottle and empty the water into the river. Instantly, it seems, the un-bottled water disappears.

Where does the bottled water go?

Imagine the last of these scenes is filmed with a video camera and now you can watch the video but slowed down many, many times. You can see the water in the bottle taking the shape of the bottle. As you empty it out, it rapidly changes its shape as it pours into the river, but before it hits the river, it is still clearly the same “body of water” which was held within the bottle. As it breaks through the river’s surface, it changes shape even more, frame by frame becoming less distinguishable from the river itself.

The bottled water doesn’t disappear. It becomes the river as the river flows through it.

The snowflake doesn’t disappear. It becomes the water as the water flows through it.

The cloud doesn’t disappear. It becomes the sky as the sky flows through it.

Can you remember a time when you looked at the sea, and watched the waves growing out of the flat surface of the sea, swelling out of the surface of the sea, until they broke free of that flatness to stand proudly, perhaps flashing white tips as they sped towards the shore, to crash on the rocks or the beach, hiss, rattle the stones and the shells, then slip back quietly into the sea again?

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november reflection

In my twelve monthly themes, November is the month of reflection. Why not take a moment to reflect on the year so far? Or even on TODAY so far??

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Stumbled across this quotation from Mencken yesterday –

“When they speak of the dangers of Americanization… [it] may be described in general, as the decay of spiritual values that has gone on among us during the past two generations. It may be described, in particular, as our growing impatience with the free play of ideas; our increasing tendency to reduce all virtues to the single one of conformity, our relentless and all-pervading standardization. This is what all Europe fears when it contemplates the growing importance and influence of The United States… By Americanization it means Fordization – and not only in industry but also in politics, art and even religion.”

When I read this, a passage from Seth Godin’s “We are all Weird” sprang to mind….

Mass is withering. The only things pushing against this trend are the factory mindset and the cultural bias toward compliance.

The control culture is crumbling. Remember that classic Apple ad?

Think Different

Celebrate your uniqueness. You really are a one off, and nobody, but nobody is a better expert in your personal experience than you are. We should resist being standardised. Be a hero, not a zombie.

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summer clouds

Can you remember a time when you looked up at the sky, a blue sky with distinct white clouds in it, and as you looked at one particular cloud you could watch its shape constantly changing? You probably noticed how the cloud would thin out at the edges and, in many cases, especially with the smaller clouds, you could watch as it gradually disappeared.
If you can’t remember ever doing that, then do it as soon as the weather allows. Pick out a fairly small cloud and watch it constantly change shape, constantly thin out at its edges and gradually disappear.
Where does the cloud go?

The cloud doesn’t disappear. It becomes the sky as the sky flows through it.

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Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon who lived and worked in the US, studied the relationships between self-image, self-esteem and personal growth. He wrote “Psycho-cybernetics” in 1960 [ISBN 978-0-671-70075-1]. He uses a distinct language and set of concepts, which seems very 1960s to me, but the underlying understanding of human behaviour, the connections between the mind and the body, and the ways people can be helped to grow, strike me as being very true. I particularly like his emphasis on the importance of imagination and how we use it to create a self-image, and in so doing, how that sets our embodied mind (not a term he uses) off to get on with delivering according to the interpretation of reality we give it.

I like the last chapter of “Psycho-cybernetics” especially, where he says –

…the body itself is equipped to maintain itself in health; to cure itself of disease……in the final analysis that is the only sort of “cure” there is.

I’m still amazed how little this is understood. So many people, health professionals included, are caught up in the delusion of pathology and drugs. Health is not absence of pathology. Drugs don’t “cure”……they just manage disease. If there’s any healing going on, it’s the natural processes of the body which are responsible. The best drugs can do is modify disease, and in so doing modify illness, whilst we hope healing takes place in the background.

It might be an old concept to think about healing energies, but I like the way Maltz puts it –

This élan vital, life force, or adaptation energy – call it whatever you will – manifests itself in many ways. The energy which heals a wound is the same energy which keeps all our other body organs functioning……whatever works to make more of this life force available to us; whatever opens to us a greater influx of “life stuff”; whatever helps us utilize it better – literally helps us “all over”

I think, and I hope this is the way Medicine will develop – by understanding better just how people get better, and by studying the methods and techniques we can use to genuinely stimulate and support healing. It’s not the dominant paradigm yet, but I’m going to bet it will be!

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