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Wow! This could be one of the best talks I’ve ever heard. Randy Pausch is a computer science professor at Carnegie Mellon. They run a lecture series entitled “The Last Lecture” where a professor imagines what he’d say if he only had one lecture left to give before he died. Randy Pausch was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer not long before giving this lecture.

He called the lecture “Really Achieving your Childhood Dreams”. It’s funny, it’s inspiring and it’s deeply moving. Here is the video of the lecture. It runs for just over an hour, so I urge you to sit down, relax and watch it through. The hour will fly past, I promise you. And you’ll be SO glad you took the time to watch it.

If you’ve been as impressed by this as I was, you can find out a lot more here.

Here’s a man who knows what it is to be a hero, not a zombie……..

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I read the Prosperous Peasant, written by Tim Clark and Mark Cunningham, recently. It’s one of those books which teaches (in this case five) principles (or ‘secrets’) which you should learn if you want to have a better life. The writing is better than many other books of this genre, partly, I suspect, because both of the authors are already established writers, one of them a novelist. Their writing skills show. The message of the book is very simple – here are the five principles –

  1. Gratitude attracts luck
  2. Know your gift
  3. Conceivable means achievable
  4. Effort determines results
  5. Collaboration breeds success

I’m not going to elaborate any of these here. There’s nothing ground-breaking in here. However, my favourite one is the third one. A long of goal-setting and visualisation teaching is ridiculous and sets people up for disappointment. This particular principle emphasises that you have to be able to “conceive” how you’re going to achieve what you want to do, and that’s what makes it possible. It’s the conceiving that sets it apart from fanciful daydreaming. The principles are all ones you’ll have read about elsewhere but I like two things – the first is the way the principles are taught using the classic storytelling method. This time the stories are set in Japan, during the time of the samurai, and each story is well told and memorable. The second is that, unlike The Secret, the principles are practical, reasonable and useful. There’s nothing quasi-religious or mystical about it. It’s got charm. You can read the book for yourself, or have a look at the website.

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When I came up with the name for this blog, I used the term hero in the literary sense – the main character of a story – because I think we create a sense of self and experience life through the creation of a personal narrative. Each of us is, then, a hero. The hero of our own story. But the term hero can be interpreted differently. I went to Paris recently to see an exhibition at the Bibliotheque Nationale de France about Heroes. While there I bought the book they produced to accompany the exhibition.

cover of brochure

The contents page will give you an idea of the scope and structure of the exhibition. You’ll see they’ve taken the idea of the hero and explored what makes a hero a hero with some examples from different times and different countries, but there is, of course, this being Paris, a strong emphasis on French heroes – with one whole section termed “National Heroes”, with the nation in question being France. The use of the term “hero” to mean the main character of a novel emerged in the 17th century apparently. However, this exploration of heroes and “heroisation” is more comprehensive than that and particularly highlights the popular notion of a hero as being someone who does something exceptional, someone who does something out of the ordinary.

The original term “hero” was used to describe someone who was more than human but less than a god – a demi-god.

The examples given in the exhibition are just that – examples. We can all come up with our own favourite heroes after all, but the principles revealed are applicable in different times and different countries.

contents page

The first section of the exhibit, focuses on “aristocratic” heroes, starting with the mythical God-King of Uruk, Gilgamesh, and concentrates on the original, classical meaning of the word hero – half-human, half-god. These classical heroes were not like other men and women. They were something greater than human, but not as great as the gods. However, as befitting this concept, they were kings, rulers and great warriors.

classical

The next session is about French national heroes and they are almost exclusively soldiers and fighters. They include Joan of Arc (one of the first great female heroes) and Napoleon, the Emperor, through to the soldier and Resistance heroes of the twentieth century World Wars. It’s at this point that the authors mention the emergence of the victim, or, more specifically, what they call the “sacralisation” of the victim. The appalling slaughter of the trenches during World War One changed people’s attitudes. The focus was not on great heroic soldier-leaders, rather the focus was on the suffering. This has continued right through the last century and into our new one with 9/11 where although there were many stories of individual heroism, they were told amongst a host of stories of victims. In some ways, this has contributed to the changes in the modern conception of the hero, which we see developed in the third section of the exhibition.

national

These newer, global heroes, are not warriors, kings, queens and rulers any more. In fact, they are, primarily, fictional and/or from the world of entertainment. James Bond, Superman and Batman, for example, and people like Jimi Hendrix as an example of the musician-hero, and Zidane as a sporting hero (despite his sending off in the World Cup final he’s still a hero in France). Even the modern fighter-hero of Che Guevara has been pretty much turned into a commodity, probably more famous for his image than anything else with today’s young people.

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What has happened, and is still happening, is the personalisation of the hero. They don’t say this in the exhibition but I think it’s a kind of post-modernisation of the hero. It’s fascinating to see this evolution of the hero from God-king, to celebrity following one strand. And from public and universal form to a much more deeply personal one. We all have our heroes, in the sense of people who have certain characteristics which we hugely admire and, may even aspire to emulate. However, the authors of this exhibition are very clear that there is a difference between heroes and great men and women. It’s this – the traditional concept of a hero is someone who emerges in a crisis or extreme situation to carry out specific courageous acts which involve personal sacrifice for the sake of others. It’s not a way of life. It’s a stepping up, a courageous stepping up to deal with a situation of extreme danger. This reminds me of the work of Viktor Frankl, the author of ‘The Will to Meaning’ and inventor of ‘logotherapy‘. He said that bad things happen, the question is what stand are we going to take? In other words, how will we choose to respond to those events.

It’s also interesting that the very first hero they mention, Gilgamesh, was probably not a historical character. You could say this of all the great mythical heroes of classical times. And, in the present day, we’re back to that – fictional, fictionalised and mythical heroes. This makes it very clear that it’s others who create heroes – the process of ‘heroisation’ often occurs after the death of the hero themselves, but even while still living it’s the community which makes someone into a hero, not the person themselves. In fact, the process of ‘heroisation’ is a narrative process.

Let me finish then, by returning to my original definition – the literary one. We are all heroes. We are all the main characters of our life stories. We are all unique and whether or not we are ever called to commit a “heroic” act in the sense described in this exhibition, we become who we are through our responses to the situations we find ourselves in. We can grow by the characters we develop from the stands we take in adversity. That’s why one of the best possible outcomes from an illness is a growth, a development of self and of character.

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In Charles Handy’s Empty Raincoat he tells a story of speaking to a successful winemaker in California. He asked this man what he hoped for in the future and he said he wanted to grow his business. Handy could see that the valley was already full of vines and couldn’t see how the business (a vineyard) could grow bigger there, so he asked the man, sharing that thought. Oh no, said the winemaker, growth is not making it bigger, it’s making it better.

I like that story.

Growth is an essential principle of life. If we stop growing, we stop living. And I don’t mean just waist size! Growing for a human being should be about growing better – increasing your knowledge, your skills, your wisdom, your pleasure, and your sense of purpose.

Here’s my wish for you in 2008 (I’m writing this on January 1st) –

May you grow this year. May your life grow better in the ways that matter to you.

May you know that you are a hero, not a zombie!

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I don’t know about you, but I’m not a great fan of goals. I know, almost every book you read about personal improvement, “getting things done” or management methods harps on about goals. Have a look at 43 things, which is a website which is supposed to help you achieve your goals –

People have known for years that making a list of goals is the best way to achieve them. But most of us never get around to making a list. 43 Things is great for that! Make a list on 43 Things and see what changes happen in your life. Best of all it’s a way of connecting with other enthusiasts interested in everything from watching a space shuttle launch to grow my own vegetables. So the next time someone asks you, “what do you do?” you can answer with confidence, “I am doing 43 things!”.

One of the interesting things on this site is the list of the “all-time most popular goals“. It might not surprise you to see that number one is “lose weight”. And the fact that number two is “stop procrastinating” will give you some idea of the likely success rate of subscribers! (actually reading their comments on their progress is really a rather sad experience 😦 ) Some of the goals are quite well circumscribed, like “buy a house”, and “get a tattoo”. What bothers me about those kinds of goals is that the goal itself has little to do with daily life. Buying a house is an event. Getting a tattoo is an event. Quite a lot of goals are like that. Now there’s nothing wrong with planning to experience an event, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting a house (though why people want tattoos escapes me!!), but the process of getting there is unrelated to the end goal. I always found those suggestions about visualising your goal (like they do in the Secret) a bit naff.

Other goals aren’t like that. “Learn Spanish”, “Learn to play the guitar”, “Practice yoga”, for example are activities. Turning activities into goals though risks developing a tick box mentality. When do you reach a goal like that? When do you say “OK, that’s Spanish cracked, what now?” But there’s something about these goals that appeals more than the event type.

Before I finish this little rant about goals, I’m pretty sure the reason I got so fed up with goal-setting was the introduction of “targets” into the National Health Service. Not only would I dispute the prioritisation of the particular targets, but it annoys me how so much of the health service’s resources are then consumed hitting those targets. Targets distort health care and move the focus away from the individual patients to the declared outcomes either politicians or managers have decided are most important. And don’t get me started on “measurable” targets because what they do is give what can be measured greater priority over what can’t.

And yet……there’s a nagging doubt that goals aren’t all that bad, that they can be a way of bringing focus, and contributing towards motivation. But my lingering discomfort comes from the many people I’ve met who are not living the life they want to live but have some goal, some time in the future, (after retirement or winning the lottery are two common future scenarios), which they would like to achieve, get, experience, or whatever, but by the time that some time arrives it’s too late and in fact they never live the life they wanted to live.

Well, my brain works in a way that makes connections between ideas and I’ve long been fascinated by something called fractals. A fractal is a shape which looks pretty much the same at whichever level of magnification you view it. It’s based on a characteristic called “self-similarity” (others call this phenomenon “self-symmetry”). When you use a mathematical formula to create a pattern based on this type of symmetry you get beautiful images.

What’s this got to do with goals? Well, the issue of doing one completely different thing, to get to another, like, say, working 9 – 5 in a job you hate to put enough money in a retirement fund which you hope will enable you to do what you really want to do in 30 or 40 years time, just strikes me as crazy. It’s not a way to live. If I’ve got a goal, then the experience of working towards it should, ideally, be as good as the goal itself. That way, I experience what I’m hoping for today, and in a way that will, hopefully, grow and continue to deepen. Take learning a language for example. I decided I’d like to learn Japanese and enrolled in an evening class at Glasgow University. It’s fun. I really enjoy it and so far I’ve learned all the hiragana characters and am moving on to learn the katakana ones. It’s like learning to crack a secret code and the fact I can now read a menu in Tokyo is a great thrill! But there isn’t an “end point”, there’s no box to tick. There might be exams in my course but I’ve no desire to get a certificate. It’s the learning that’s the thrill. You could say the same about my photography. I could say I’d like to take better photographs but I do that by taking better photographs, carrying my camera with me everywhere and seeing what works and what doesn’t work. These “goals” have the quality of self-similarity. They look the same no matter what time scale you examine them under – today, next week, this next year, by the time I’m 65.

I have a notion that if we keep the idea of the fractal in our heads when thinking about goal setting we’ll have more chance of living a life NOW that we choose and enjoy AND which leads us to where we want to go.

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Another of Charles Handy’s useful concepts from his Empty Raincoat is the ‘doughnut principle’. He says to imagine an American donut (see how I changed the spelling to the American one?) but to invert it so that instead of a hole in the middle, you have a core, and outside of the core you have an area bounded by the donut’s edge.

He says the core is what’s essential. It’s the agreed given of a job, or a project, or a person. And the outside of the core is the potential. The potential is variable and you can develop as much or as little of it as you want. But it does have a boundary, or a limit.

Without a boundary it is easy to be oppressed by guilt, for enough is never enough.

This is a good model in health care. The core might be the essential health outcomes you’d hope to achieve eg a normal blood pressure reading, but the outer ring of the doughnut represents the potential which might be achieved – how might this person’s health be improved, not just their blood pressure?

Societies which overemphasise the core can be too regulated.

This is his warning and it’s so true. It’s the danger inherent in a system of targets in health care. The ‘Quality Outcomes Framework’ at the heart of UK General Practice is the core, but if it consumes all of the doctors’ attention and energies, we’re going to lose an awful lot of good medical practice that sits out there in the potential.

There’s also something in this idea of a core which reminds me of the concept of virtues, where the focus is on developing character rather than on tasks and duties.

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Did Charles Handy come up with the concept of the “third age”? I’ve done a bit of searching online but I can’t find the answer to that. Wikipedia reckons the Third Age, is the history of Middle Earth in Lord of the Rings! In The Empty Raincoat, Handy describes four ages –

  1. Formation – education, training, life experience
  2. Endeavour – work, parenting, house-keeping
  3. Second Life – extension of the Second Age, or something different
  4. Dependency – the final years

He attributes roughly 25 years of life to each of these stages (or ‘ages’).

Whoever coined the term originally, the concept is a useful one, and as Handy points out, with increased life expectancy and quality of life for most of us, the Third Age is becoming increasingly important. He points out that the Third Age used to be what we called retirement and was seen as a time to do nothing, live off your pension, then die! Nowadays, with the changing demographics producing many more older, healthier people, and correspondingly lower proportions of younger people in society, he says we can no longer think of the Third Age as a time for doing nothing and earning nothing. He describes four sources of income in the Third Age –

  1. State pension
  2. Occupational pension
  3. Savings/inheritance
  4. Paid work

and he says that as neither State nor occupational pensions will be enough to live on in the future, that we’ll increasingly have to rely on paid word beyond the age of 65. This needn’t be a bad thing of course. Many people feel tossed on a waste heap on retirement day. But certainly, it’d be good if it wasn’t about just more years of 9 till 5 and wages! Given that most people will have some pension income, and maybe also some savings or inheritances, then paid work needn’t take centre stage but might potentially be more meaningful work – something which adds value to life beyond a simple income. But, then, that’s a pretty good goal to have at any age, isn’t it?

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One of the concepts which Charles Handy writes about in The Empty Raincoat is the ‘s’ curve. Here’s an example of one –

S curve

We start something new, it develops and grows, then the problems and limitations start to appear so the growth flattens out, and in the final stage, decline sets in.

Handy says

It’s one of the paradoxes of success that the things and the ways which got you where you are, are seldom the things that keep you there.

In other words, when things are going well, we shouldn’t become complacent thinking that we’ve got it all sussed. If we want to keep growing (and if we don’t we’ll start to shrink or decline) then we have to change what we’re doing now. The future will be different from both the past and the present.

An example of this from medical practice would be the treatment of an individual with a chronic illness. The doctor might find some therapies which are helpful eg some particular drugs which work for this patient, but, as time passes, those therapies won’t be so helpful any more.

I find the idea of “proven” or “unproven” treatments to be very unhelpful. Not only because no treatment will work for every patient, so a treatment is only “proven” for that person when we see how things turn out for them, but that because everyone is always changing, what works now, what is “proven” now, will stop working, or at least stop working so well, as time passes.

If we are to continue to improve and to grow we need to understand the reality of this ‘s-curve’ and as

it’s easy to explain things looking backwards, we think we can then predict them forwards

we soon find that the next phase, the new medicine, the new way of doing things, will be quite unlike the present – related to the present and emerging from the present – but different.

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I read this book some time ago but it came back to my mind when I stumbled across the dancer who claims to reveal whether your are dominantly left-brained or right-brained. The book in question is “A Whole New Mind”, by Daniel H. Pink (ISBN 1-904879-57-8). Let me say at the outset that I really liked this book. I found it stimulating, thought-provoking an useful. The basic thesis is that there has been a time of great progress in societies from left-brained dominance and, rather than argue that what we need is a time of right-brained dominance, Pink, I reckon, gets it right by arguing for a whole-brained approach. I like that. I find the left-right debate rather stale and unhelpful.

What he does is argue for the development of six, what he calls “senses”, which are, in effect attributes, or characteristics, which he says will give people who use their whole brains success over those who stick with old sided dominances. I really like all six of them. They are –

  1. DESIGN – products, services and experiences that aren’t just functional, but which are also “beautiful, whimsical, or emotionally engaging”
  2. STORY – it’s not enough to fashion effective arguments from information and data, “The essence of persuasion, communication, and self-understanding has become the ability also to fashion a compelling narrative”
  3. SYMPHONY – not analysis but synthesis “being able to combine disparate pieces into an arresting new whole”
  4. EMPATHY – “logic alone won’t do. What will distinguish those who thrive will be their ability to understand what makes their fellow woman or man tick, to forge relationships, and to care for others.”
  5. PLAY – there is a need for seriousness but there is also a need for play
  6. MEANING – many of us live in material abundance, and this has freed us up to “pursue more significant desires: purpose, transcendence, and spiritual fulfillment.”

The book has two sections. The first makes the case for a whole brain approach and the second devotes a chapter to each of these six “senses”. In fact, one of the things that takes this book out of the theoretical and into the practical is that he treats every “sense” to two chapters – the first clarifies what that sense is and the second is entitled “portfolio” which is a collection of exercises you can do to develop that “sense” in your own life.

You know what? I’m going to read it again!

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I read a couple of great posts about how people use paper. Across on 43folders. wood.tang’s post about the backs of envelopes  was inspired by Merlin’s post entitled Making friends with paper. (really great little video embedded in that post by the way). Both these guys are making the point that they still use paper preferentially for certain tasks despite being keen on technological solutions. They make the point that there’s something different about interaction with paper. Read the comments from people to both these posts – they are also very interesting and inspiring.

This fits with a point being made in a book I’m reading at the moment – it’s Andy Clark’s Being There. He describes a concept of the extended mind. What he shows is how our physical interaction with the environment allows us to develop and use cognitive functions that our brains either just couldn’t do alone, or certainly couldn’t do so well. One simple example he gives is doing a jigsaw. We pick up the pieces, twirl them round in our fingers, hover them over different spaces and our brains, which are good at pattern-spotting, work with these movements and actions and our hands and brains then work seamlessly to solve the puzzle.

I know that since I started doing the morning pages about a year ago my own creativity and productivity has gone through the roof. This blog here is a good example of that.  Interestingly, I find I almost never ever go back to read anything I’ve written in those daily notebooks. That’s not how they work. It’s the act of writing longhand in a nice notebook which works with the brain to produce the end result – ideas, solutions, decisions etc etc.

How about you? What’s your relationship with paper these days?

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