“In Praise of Love” by Alain Badiou [1846687799] presents a simple but thought-provoking idea about love. He proposes that love is about the creation of a two person view of the world, instead of the single, individual one. As understood from a complexity position, what emerges in this linking up is greater than the sum of its parts
the real subject of a love is the becoming of the couple and not the mere satisfaction of the individuals that are its component parts.
Quite poetically he describes it this way
It is like two musical instruments that are completely different in tone and volume, but which mysteriously converge when unified by a great musician in the same work.
What really resonated most strongly with me, however, was his key insistence that love is about difference – about seeking difference, creating difference, delighting in difference…
what kind of world does one see when one experiences it from the point of view of two and not one? What is the world like when it is experienced, developed and lived from the point of view of difference and not identity? That is what I believe love to be. It is the project, naturally including sexual desire in all its facets, including the birth of a child, but also a thousand other things, in fact, anything from the moment our lives are challenged by the perspective of difference.
Beautiful.
This is a different view of love from the traditional romantic love, which, sadly, I feel, too easily slides into something which turns one person into the love object of the other. I prefer Badiou’s idea – it’s more equal, and, ultimately, incredibly more exciting….






