In his Choice Theory, William Glasser make the point that we are all born “genetically programmed” to have five basic needs. However, we don’t all have each particular need to the same degree as another person. Our personal mix of these five needs will tell us a lot about our personal motivations and what lies behind the choices we make in life. The five needs are
- Belonging (love and loving sex)
He makes suggestions to help you figure out the strengths of these various needs in your own life.
If you have found that you are less willing to take risks than most people, you have a high need for survival.
The key to assessing the strength of your need for love and belonging is how much you are willing to give.
To assess the strength of your need for power, ask yourself if you always want to have your own way, to have the last word, to own people, and to be seen as right in most of what you do or say.
If you can’t stand the idea of following rules, conforming, or even staying in one place or with one group of people for very long, you have a high need for freedom.
If you enjoy learning and laugh a lot when you do, you have a high need for fun.
You get the idea? Of course, you could say that ALL of us have ALL of these needs. The point is to understand which of these resonate most strongly with you. Because that’ll be your prime motivator.