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Blogging consciously?

Skellie asks if you are blogging consciously. She’s been thinking about it since reading the zen habits’ post “Wake up: A guide to living your life consciously.”

As she says

Living consciously is about analyzing and evaluating your actions, habits and behaviors, rather than simply doing. In other words, asking why rather than doing without really thinking.

And as both her post and the zen habits one points out, we can apply that principle to anything we do in life. In fact, it’s a key, distinguishing feature of living a hero life instead of a zombie one. The more we pay attention to what we are experiencing right now, the more chance we have of making conscious choices and becoming the authors of our own lives, the heroes of our own stories.

I particularly like Skellie’s last point where she asks if blogging is enjoyable for you or just a chore and says if it is a chore you should be thinking of re-focusing. I completely agree.

Michael J Fox has an illness known as Parkinson’s Disease. It’s a disease of the nervous system which causes both tremor and decreased mobility. Diseases of the nervous system really hit a person’s sense of being in control of their own body. We tend to take it for granted that our bodies will just do what we tell them and when that doesn’t happen it’s a really central challenge to our need for control. Here’s what he says –

I can’t always control my body the way I want to, and I can’t control when I feel good or when I don’t. I can control how clear my mind is. And I can control how willing I am to step up if somebody needs me.

That’s one of the things the illness has given me: It’s a degree of death. There’s a certain amount of loss, and whenever you have a loss, it’s a step toward death. So if you can accept loss, you can accept the fact that there’s gonna be the big loss. Once you can accept that, you can accept anything. So then I think, Well, given that that’s the case, let’s tip myself a break. Let’s tip everybody a break.

My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.

Acceptance is the key to everything.

Which isn’t to say that I’m resigned to it, or that I’ve given up on it, or that I don’t think I have any effect on the outcome of it. It’s just that, as a reality, I get it.

There really is a lot in those little answers! Look at how he deals with the issue of loss of control. What helps him to deal with his illness is knowing what he can still control – clarity of mind and motivation to help others – and those things are more important than controlling limbs.

He speaks of how coming to terms with the sense of loss which his illness brings has better prepared him for death, and in doing so, better prepared him for life.

I also like what he says about acceptance, and how he distinguishes that from resignation. It’s about being real. Isn’t that true? How much unhappiness and suffering do we experience because of our refusal to accept reality, focusing instead on how we’d prefer things to be?

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is an intersting author. He’s promoted the concept of ‘flow’ experiences from his research into happiness. This article by him is about education.

It has turned out that mass education is more difficult to achieve than we had anticipated. To close the gap between the rather dismal reality and earlier expectations, researchers and practitioners have placed their faith in teaching methods modeled on computers and other rational means for conveying information – which in turn were modeled on industrial production techniques and on military human systems design. The implicit hope has been that if we discover more and more rational ways of selecting, organizing, and distributing knowledge, children will learn more effectively.

Yet it seems increasingly clear that the chief impediments to learning are not cognitive in nature. It is not that students cannot learn, it is that they do not wish to. Computers do not suffer from motivational problems, whereas human beings do.

This strikes me as very true and it reminds me of Dickens’ character, the school-teacher Gradgrind, whose educational theory was that children were empty buckets waiting to be filled with facts!

if educators invested a fraction of the energy on stimulating the students’ enjoyment of learning that they now spend in trying to transmit information we could achieve much better results.

How many of your learning experiences have been fun ones? I’ll bet that the fun ones stuck and the boring ones disappeared.

He concludes –

There are two main ways that children’s motivation to learn can be enhanced. The first is by a realistic reassessment of the extrinsic rewards attendant to education. This would involve a much clearer communication of the advantages and disadvantages one might expect as a result of being able to read, write, and do sums. Of course, these consequences must be real, and not just a matter of educational propaganda. Hypocrisy is easy to detect, and nothing turns motivation off more effectively than the realization that one has been had.

The second way to enhance motivation is to make children aware of how much fun learning can be. This strategy is preferable on many counts. In the first place, it is something teachers can do something about. Second, it should be easier to implement-it does not require expensive technology, although it does require sensitivity and intelligence, which might be harder to come by than the fruits of technology. Third, it is a more efficient and permanent way to empower children with the tools of knowledge. And finally, this strategy is preferable because it adds immensely to the enjoyment learners will take in the use of their abilities, and hence it improves the quality of their lives.

I’m sure he’s right. Check out the full article. It’s short but worth reading and although his focus on helping children to learn, the exact same principles apply to grown ups!

An ocean of memories

A mind like the sea

Atlantic

Imagine life is like a ship sailing over the ocean. Every experience you have makes a mark on the sea. As you travel through the world you leave a wake behind you, a white foam, a swell and a pattern of waves. These are your short term memories. If you look back behind you, you’ll see traces of what you’ve just done, of where you’ve just been, but the wake doesn’t last long. It soon dissipates and settles and becomes indistinguishable from the surface of the ocean again. But some experiences are heavier. They make a bigger impact and they leave objects floating on the water. The flotsam and jetsam of daily experience, lasting longer than a wake, but still floating away, scattered, unanchored. Memories like little fragments of material, boxes, or bottles, washed white in the sea and the sun. Possibly to be recovered some day when they come floating by again, or because you find them lying, unexpectedly, on a desert island somewhere, or someone else picks them up and brings them back to show you. Some sink deeper below the surface and turn into fish or sea creatures with a life of their own, coming up near the surface from time to time, flashing silver or rainbow colours in the water as they swim by. Some become sharks and scare you every time their fins break the surface of the conscious sea. Some become dolphins or whales and leap up joyfully and thrillingly. You can go looking for some of them if you know where they live. Some sink even deeper and become coral and wrecks on the deep sea bed, rusting, encrusting, growing and changing ever so slowly, imperceptibly. You only find them if you dive for them.

When I came up with the name for this blog, I used the term hero in the literary sense – the main character of a story – because I think we create a sense of self and experience life through the creation of a personal narrative. Each of us is, then, a hero. The hero of our own story. But the term hero can be interpreted differently. I went to Paris recently to see an exhibition at the Bibliotheque Nationale de France about Heroes. While there I bought the book they produced to accompany the exhibition.

cover of brochure

The contents page will give you an idea of the scope and structure of the exhibition. You’ll see they’ve taken the idea of the hero and explored what makes a hero a hero with some examples from different times and different countries, but there is, of course, this being Paris, a strong emphasis on French heroes – with one whole section termed “National Heroes”, with the nation in question being France. The use of the term “hero” to mean the main character of a novel emerged in the 17th century apparently. However, this exploration of heroes and “heroisation” is more comprehensive than that and particularly highlights the popular notion of a hero as being someone who does something exceptional, someone who does something out of the ordinary.

The original term “hero” was used to describe someone who was more than human but less than a god – a demi-god.

The examples given in the exhibition are just that – examples. We can all come up with our own favourite heroes after all, but the principles revealed are applicable in different times and different countries.

contents page

The first section of the exhibit, focuses on “aristocratic” heroes, starting with the mythical God-King of Uruk, Gilgamesh, and concentrates on the original, classical meaning of the word hero – half-human, half-god. These classical heroes were not like other men and women. They were something greater than human, but not as great as the gods. However, as befitting this concept, they were kings, rulers and great warriors.

classical

The next session is about French national heroes and they are almost exclusively soldiers and fighters. They include Joan of Arc (one of the first great female heroes) and Napoleon, the Emperor, through to the soldier and Resistance heroes of the twentieth century World Wars. It’s at this point that the authors mention the emergence of the victim, or, more specifically, what they call the “sacralisation” of the victim. The appalling slaughter of the trenches during World War One changed people’s attitudes. The focus was not on great heroic soldier-leaders, rather the focus was on the suffering. This has continued right through the last century and into our new one with 9/11 where although there were many stories of individual heroism, they were told amongst a host of stories of victims. In some ways, this has contributed to the changes in the modern conception of the hero, which we see developed in the third section of the exhibition.

national

These newer, global heroes, are not warriors, kings, queens and rulers any more. In fact, they are, primarily, fictional and/or from the world of entertainment. James Bond, Superman and Batman, for example, and people like Jimi Hendrix as an example of the musician-hero, and Zidane as a sporting hero (despite his sending off in the World Cup final he’s still a hero in France). Even the modern fighter-hero of Che Guevara has been pretty much turned into a commodity, probably more famous for his image than anything else with today’s young people.

global

What has happened, and is still happening, is the personalisation of the hero. They don’t say this in the exhibition but I think it’s a kind of post-modernisation of the hero. It’s fascinating to see this evolution of the hero from God-king, to celebrity following one strand. And from public and universal form to a much more deeply personal one. We all have our heroes, in the sense of people who have certain characteristics which we hugely admire and, may even aspire to emulate. However, the authors of this exhibition are very clear that there is a difference between heroes and great men and women. It’s this – the traditional concept of a hero is someone who emerges in a crisis or extreme situation to carry out specific courageous acts which involve personal sacrifice for the sake of others. It’s not a way of life. It’s a stepping up, a courageous stepping up to deal with a situation of extreme danger. This reminds me of the work of Viktor Frankl, the author of ‘The Will to Meaning’ and inventor of ‘logotherapy‘. He said that bad things happen, the question is what stand are we going to take? In other words, how will we choose to respond to those events.

It’s also interesting that the very first hero they mention, Gilgamesh, was probably not a historical character. You could say this of all the great mythical heroes of classical times. And, in the present day, we’re back to that – fictional, fictionalised and mythical heroes. This makes it very clear that it’s others who create heroes – the process of ‘heroisation’ often occurs after the death of the hero themselves, but even while still living it’s the community which makes someone into a hero, not the person themselves. In fact, the process of ‘heroisation’ is a narrative process.

Let me finish then, by returning to my original definition – the literary one. We are all heroes. We are all the main characters of our life stories. We are all unique and whether or not we are ever called to commit a “heroic” act in the sense described in this exhibition, we become who we are through our responses to the situations we find ourselves in. We can grow by the characters we develop from the stands we take in adversity. That’s why one of the best possible outcomes from an illness is a growth, a development of self and of character.

Did you read about an Englishman called Eric King-Turner? He’s 102 and has just set off to emigrate to New Zealand with his wife (who is a native of NZ). He said it wasn’t important to him that he’d be the eldest Briton to emigrate. What was important was –

“What’s important is that when I’m 105 I don’t want to be thinking ‘I wish I had moved to the other side of the world when I was 102.’ “

There’s the message. Do it NOW!

In Charles Handy’s Empty Raincoat he tells a story of speaking to a successful winemaker in California. He asked this man what he hoped for in the future and he said he wanted to grow his business. Handy could see that the valley was already full of vines and couldn’t see how the business (a vineyard) could grow bigger there, so he asked the man, sharing that thought. Oh no, said the winemaker, growth is not making it bigger, it’s making it better.

I like that story.

Growth is an essential principle of life. If we stop growing, we stop living. And I don’t mean just waist size! Growing for a human being should be about growing better – increasing your knowledge, your skills, your wisdom, your pleasure, and your sense of purpose.

Here’s my wish for you in 2008 (I’m writing this on January 1st) –

May you grow this year. May your life grow better in the ways that matter to you.

May you know that you are a hero, not a zombie!

I don’t know about you, but I’m not a great fan of goals. I know, almost every book you read about personal improvement, “getting things done” or management methods harps on about goals. Have a look at 43 things, which is a website which is supposed to help you achieve your goals –

People have known for years that making a list of goals is the best way to achieve them. But most of us never get around to making a list. 43 Things is great for that! Make a list on 43 Things and see what changes happen in your life. Best of all it’s a way of connecting with other enthusiasts interested in everything from watching a space shuttle launch to grow my own vegetables. So the next time someone asks you, “what do you do?” you can answer with confidence, “I am doing 43 things!”.

One of the interesting things on this site is the list of the “all-time most popular goals“. It might not surprise you to see that number one is “lose weight”. And the fact that number two is “stop procrastinating” will give you some idea of the likely success rate of subscribers! (actually reading their comments on their progress is really a rather sad experience 😦 ) Some of the goals are quite well circumscribed, like “buy a house”, and “get a tattoo”. What bothers me about those kinds of goals is that the goal itself has little to do with daily life. Buying a house is an event. Getting a tattoo is an event. Quite a lot of goals are like that. Now there’s nothing wrong with planning to experience an event, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting a house (though why people want tattoos escapes me!!), but the process of getting there is unrelated to the end goal. I always found those suggestions about visualising your goal (like they do in the Secret) a bit naff.

Other goals aren’t like that. “Learn Spanish”, “Learn to play the guitar”, “Practice yoga”, for example are activities. Turning activities into goals though risks developing a tick box mentality. When do you reach a goal like that? When do you say “OK, that’s Spanish cracked, what now?” But there’s something about these goals that appeals more than the event type.

Before I finish this little rant about goals, I’m pretty sure the reason I got so fed up with goal-setting was the introduction of “targets” into the National Health Service. Not only would I dispute the prioritisation of the particular targets, but it annoys me how so much of the health service’s resources are then consumed hitting those targets. Targets distort health care and move the focus away from the individual patients to the declared outcomes either politicians or managers have decided are most important. And don’t get me started on “measurable” targets because what they do is give what can be measured greater priority over what can’t.

And yet……there’s a nagging doubt that goals aren’t all that bad, that they can be a way of bringing focus, and contributing towards motivation. But my lingering discomfort comes from the many people I’ve met who are not living the life they want to live but have some goal, some time in the future, (after retirement or winning the lottery are two common future scenarios), which they would like to achieve, get, experience, or whatever, but by the time that some time arrives it’s too late and in fact they never live the life they wanted to live.

Well, my brain works in a way that makes connections between ideas and I’ve long been fascinated by something called fractals. A fractal is a shape which looks pretty much the same at whichever level of magnification you view it. It’s based on a characteristic called “self-similarity” (others call this phenomenon “self-symmetry”). When you use a mathematical formula to create a pattern based on this type of symmetry you get beautiful images.

What’s this got to do with goals? Well, the issue of doing one completely different thing, to get to another, like, say, working 9 – 5 in a job you hate to put enough money in a retirement fund which you hope will enable you to do what you really want to do in 30 or 40 years time, just strikes me as crazy. It’s not a way to live. If I’ve got a goal, then the experience of working towards it should, ideally, be as good as the goal itself. That way, I experience what I’m hoping for today, and in a way that will, hopefully, grow and continue to deepen. Take learning a language for example. I decided I’d like to learn Japanese and enrolled in an evening class at Glasgow University. It’s fun. I really enjoy it and so far I’ve learned all the hiragana characters and am moving on to learn the katakana ones. It’s like learning to crack a secret code and the fact I can now read a menu in Tokyo is a great thrill! But there isn’t an “end point”, there’s no box to tick. There might be exams in my course but I’ve no desire to get a certificate. It’s the learning that’s the thrill. You could say the same about my photography. I could say I’d like to take better photographs but I do that by taking better photographs, carrying my camera with me everywhere and seeing what works and what doesn’t work. These “goals” have the quality of self-similarity. They look the same no matter what time scale you examine them under – today, next week, this next year, by the time I’m 65.

I have a notion that if we keep the idea of the fractal in our heads when thinking about goal setting we’ll have more chance of living a life NOW that we choose and enjoy AND which leads us to where we want to go.

Another of Charles Handy’s useful concepts from his Empty Raincoat is the ‘doughnut principle’. He says to imagine an American donut (see how I changed the spelling to the American one?) but to invert it so that instead of a hole in the middle, you have a core, and outside of the core you have an area bounded by the donut’s edge.

He says the core is what’s essential. It’s the agreed given of a job, or a project, or a person. And the outside of the core is the potential. The potential is variable and you can develop as much or as little of it as you want. But it does have a boundary, or a limit.

Without a boundary it is easy to be oppressed by guilt, for enough is never enough.

This is a good model in health care. The core might be the essential health outcomes you’d hope to achieve eg a normal blood pressure reading, but the outer ring of the doughnut represents the potential which might be achieved – how might this person’s health be improved, not just their blood pressure?

Societies which overemphasise the core can be too regulated.

This is his warning and it’s so true. It’s the danger inherent in a system of targets in health care. The ‘Quality Outcomes Framework’ at the heart of UK General Practice is the core, but if it consumes all of the doctors’ attention and energies, we’re going to lose an awful lot of good medical practice that sits out there in the potential.

There’s also something in this idea of a core which reminds me of the concept of virtues, where the focus is on developing character rather than on tasks and duties.

The Third Age

Did Charles Handy come up with the concept of the “third age”? I’ve done a bit of searching online but I can’t find the answer to that. Wikipedia reckons the Third Age, is the history of Middle Earth in Lord of the Rings! In The Empty Raincoat, Handy describes four ages –

  1. Formation – education, training, life experience
  2. Endeavour – work, parenting, house-keeping
  3. Second Life – extension of the Second Age, or something different
  4. Dependency – the final years

He attributes roughly 25 years of life to each of these stages (or ‘ages’).

Whoever coined the term originally, the concept is a useful one, and as Handy points out, with increased life expectancy and quality of life for most of us, the Third Age is becoming increasingly important. He points out that the Third Age used to be what we called retirement and was seen as a time to do nothing, live off your pension, then die! Nowadays, with the changing demographics producing many more older, healthier people, and correspondingly lower proportions of younger people in society, he says we can no longer think of the Third Age as a time for doing nothing and earning nothing. He describes four sources of income in the Third Age –

  1. State pension
  2. Occupational pension
  3. Savings/inheritance
  4. Paid work

and he says that as neither State nor occupational pensions will be enough to live on in the future, that we’ll increasingly have to rely on paid word beyond the age of 65. This needn’t be a bad thing of course. Many people feel tossed on a waste heap on retirement day. But certainly, it’d be good if it wasn’t about just more years of 9 till 5 and wages! Given that most people will have some pension income, and maybe also some savings or inheritances, then paid work needn’t take centre stage but might potentially be more meaningful work – something which adds value to life beyond a simple income. But, then, that’s a pretty good goal to have at any age, isn’t it?